Children are charming and delightful – until they’re not!  And then, on my goodness, they are a challenge. If you have young children then you understand what I mean.

Changing grumpy children into happy children is ‘child’s play’ with Bach Flower Remedies.  

The remedies are perfectly safe to give to children and they heal and soothe upsets and troubles as simply as you can count 1, 2, 3.

There are 38 remedies which cover every one of our feelings. But as some remedies are similar, it can be quite difficult to choose the best remedies to help your children (and yourself too).

I recently met a lovely group of young mothers who were curious about alternative ways to help their children (and themselves) through the trials and tribulations of life. Through the magic of technology, at the click of a button, I was instantly transported into 7 living rooms in eastern America, talking to 7 mums who wanted to know how Bach Flower Remedies could help their children – and they had a list of questions for me.

The Terrible Twos

Most of the mums had toddlers who seemed to be starting their Terrible Twos early as they were beginning to show their strength of will and their independence. They were being stubborn and having tantrums.

Most of the mums had toddlers who seemed to be starting their Terrible Twos early as they were beginning to show their strength of will and their independence. They were being stubborn and having tantrums.

Holly. Tantrums are like child’s play to deal with Bach Flowers. Holly fits the tantrum scenario perfectly.

This remedy is for the anger we feel when we’ve been treated unfairly. And yes, a toddler can feel that. They’re naturally curious and want to explore everything and when they’re stopped; when they can’t do what they want, they get really cross and sometimes violent too. Holly will help heal and soothe the Terrible Twos just as it’ll help and soothe you, when you’re angry about life.

Young Lilly wakes from her afternoon sleep screaming and is very angry. If her mother tries to pick her up or console her, she gets even angrier and hits her mother. Holly will soothe little Lilly and save her mother from a lot of heart ache.

Young children can get jealous easily. Holly heals jealousy. Even when your pets are jealous of the new baby, Holly will sort that out too (2 drops in the dogs drinking water for a few days and you’ll see the difference).

Clinging and anxious

Sarah mentioned that 2-year-old Amy was clinging and was always anxious.

Children are naturally curious so, if they’re reluctant to try something new, this could be caused by a lack of confidence mixed up with their anxiety.

I recommended that Amy be given Mimulus. Mimulus people are gentle and kind and anxious about life. It’s the remedy for known fears – like fear of spiders, fear of dogs, fear of flying etc. Those in need of Mimulus are anxious about most things in life.

Larch is the remedy for self-confidence. A child who is hesitant about attempting new things will benefit from being given Larch.

You can see that Larch and Mimulus go really well together and I suggested that Sarah give little Amy both these remedies. It’s that easy – like child’s play. (I’ve covered how to give the remedies towards the end of the blog).

Night terror panic

Night Terrors are dreadful things. Nancy’s daughter, Alicia, was having night terrors. She was waking in the night, crying and really frightened. It’s very upsetting for the child and the mother.

I recommended that Nancy give Alicia either Rescue Remedy – (or Rock Rose) – and Aspen. (Rescue Remedy contains Rock Rose. Nancy’s more likely to have Rescue than Rock Rose). Rock Rose is the remedy for ‘urgent fear’ that we call panic!

Aspen is for unknown fears. We feel afraid without being able to identify what we’re afraid of.

Stress of motherhood

This deserves to be a blog in its own right, but I’ll add a little here about the stresses of motherhood to help young mums.

Mothers want to do their very best for their children and are inclined to chew over the past and are hyper vigilant about every detail – everything must be ‘just right’. A lot of mothers can have a perfectionist-nature when it comes to how they bring up their children. They are very frightened about not getting it right.

Now a third remedy joins the Larch and Mimulus combination to make a brilliant trio…

Pine is the remedy for feelings of “I’ve done it wrong” and “I could have/should have done so much better. I didn’t do enough”.  It’s the remedy you need when you beat yourself up.

Young mothers always have too much to do in too little time. And for years they don’t get a full night’s sleep!

If you find you’re not getting enought sleep and are exhausted, Olive is the remedy for fatigue and will help you through the day. 

Vervain is the remedy for being over stressed – trying to achieve too much in too little time.

If you become irritable when you are stressed and exhausted, Impatiens is the remedy that will help you – and of course your children too, when they’re grumpy and irritable.

Taking the remedies is like Child’s Play

It’s easy and simple to take the remedies. There are 3 ways to take the remedies – all are effective, and one way is not any better than the others. One is much more expensive than the others – but all methods work well.

1. Put 2 drops of Rescue (and 2 of every other remedy) straight on to the tongue. The remedies are preserved in brandy and the strong taste is a shock to the children. Please be kind to your children – don’t give the remedies straight from the bottle. Put the remedies in water, milk or juice.
2. Put the drops into a small glass of water and sip frequently throughout the day.
3. For long-term treatment, make a Treatment bottle. This is a 30ml bottle with a dropper. Fill the treatment bottle to the shoulder with mineral or filtered water and add your chosen remedies. Then take 4 drops from that bottle at least 4 times a day or put 4 drops into a glass of water and sip frequently throughout the day.

It may seem a lot to take in, but when you actually do it, you’ll find how easy it is. It’s child’s play and then you’ll be able to watch your children play happily and contentedly.

The Bach Flower Remedies have been my constant companion for over 30 years. They have stood by me and helped me deal with some really hard times in life.

If you would like to have this support, the fact that they’ve “got your back” as it were and can help you with absolutely every situation, then click here to find out how you too can manage your own emotions and the feelings of your family.

Over to you

If you know someone whose interested in the Bach Flower Remedies, or who could benefit from these remedies, please forward this blog.

I love to hear from you, so please leave your comments in the Comment Box below.  

Thank you.

The post How to help children with Bach Flower Remedies appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

Exam time is upon us once again. There is huge pressure on our teenagers to do really well in their exams.

Bach Flower Remedies are a natural and simple way to help with the anxiety of exams (and all anxieties and fears). They can diminish anxiety and fears and boost confidence.

Clematis
If your child seems indifferent to the exams and would rather sleep than study, then Clematis will help. Clematis is indifferent and don’t want to be involved in life. They are day-dreamers. Clematis will ground them and help them to remember what they’ve learnt.

Elm feels the heaviness of the responsibility of getting good results – which can lead to depression. It’s not so much about the lack of confidence, but the huge responsibility of doing well. The weight of the responsibility will erode any confidence your child had.  

Elm will give them the confidence they need to get good results.

Larch
Larch is a wonderful remedy and I feel we should all take it every day, because we’re dealing with stress every day. Larch is the confidence flower. It works subtly (as they all do) so your child wont really notice being more confident…but in 3 days, you will!

White Chestnut
Another wonderful remedy. This one is for the merry-go-round of unresolved thoughts that open stop sleep. You can’t stop these thoughts going around and around, and there’s no way out. White Chestnut brings clarity and therefore a solution.

How to take the remedies
The most effective way to take the remedies is to make up a Treatment Bottle. This is a small, brown 30ml bottle with a dropper. If you don’t have one, you can get one from a health shop or sometimes from a well-known High Street chemist.

Treatment Bottle
To make up a Treatment Bottle, fill the bottle to the shoulder with either mineral, filtered or cooled boiled water.

Then add 2 drops of each of the chosen Remedies (add 4 drops if using Rescue Remedy) – up to a maximum of 6. Remember: When you use Rescue Remedy in a Treatment Bottle, it only counts as 1 remedy.

Then take 4 drops from the Treatment Bottle that you have just made at least 4 times a day.

Or you can use your child’s water bottle as a treatment bottle. Put into their bottle, 2 drops of each remedy for ½ ltr of water and ask them to sip it frequently.

Or the remedy can be dropped straight onto the tongue (but don’t let the dropper touch the tongue) or you can put 4 drops into a glass of water and sip it frequently, every 10 to 15 minutes or so.

The frequency of the dose is more important that the quantity.

If you have any questions, please get in touch.

And over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. I read and personally reply to all your comments. 

I look forward to hearing from you.

The post Anxious about Exams? appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

‘Depression’ seems to cover a number of feelings that are all involved with poor ‘mental health’.

There are two words that comes to my mind in connection with Mental Health and they are ‘Anxiety’ and ‘Depression’ and anyone who lives with either or both of these feelings often suffers from severe loneliness.

So it seems to me, that its a vicious circle, because these feelings feed each other constantly. 

The way I see it is, that ‘depression’ is the result of anxiety and lack of confidence, at a very deep level,  that we’ve lived with for longer than we realise. And there’ll be a few other feelings in there too: self blame for example.  

I have been using Bach Flower Remedies for over 40 years for myself, my family and my clients. These amazing remedies can heal painful feelings and as I’m sure you know, we’re all different and we react to experiences in different ways, so we often need different remedies. It might be that two people with seemingly similar ‘depressions’ might need different remedies for a healing.  

So I’ve put together a few suggestions for Bach Flower Remedies that could perhaps help you out of the mist and on the road to recovery.    

One of the best ways to help you choose remedies for yourself, is to use the Bach Flower Guides. I’m often asked what’s the difference between anxiety and panic. It is the intensity of your feelings that’s different. You can find out this, and more about the remedies from the Guides.

If you feel really intense anxiety that changes how you live, that is Rock Rose.  

If you’re a ‘worrier’ and are anxious about the things of everyday life, that needs Mimulus.

If you find it confusing to select the best remedy to help you, these Bach Flower Guides below will help you.

Here are some remedies that can help you with Depression and Anxiety:

Rescue Remedy – its brilliant in emergency situations and for grief. It ‘sticks you back together’ when you feel you’re ‘falling apart’. So this remedy can do a lot of good to everyone with Depression. Rescue Remedy contains Rock Rose, the remedy for panic and intense anxiety and Star of Bethlehem is for shock, trauma and sadness – even if your feelings are from childhood.

Mustard for a depression that comes on suddenly, out of the blue. It’s as if a dark cloud falls on you and you feel as if you’re living in fog. Your mind isn’t working and you’ve no clarity of thought. The most important indicator for Mustard, is there appears to be no cause for these awful feelings.

Larch is for the lack of self-confidence. Few realise that lacking confidence can put you into an extremely deep state of despair. You don’t try to do anything because you believe you can’t do it – and everyone can do it better than you. So you don’t try.

Pine is for self-reproach, it’s for when thoughts similar to “I should have done better. I could have done more. I wish I hadn’t said this or done that” run through your mind. I’m sure you know what I mean. We all need Pine at some time.  

Mimulus –  If you know what you’re afraid of, Mimulus is for you. Mimulus is afraid of ‘life’  They don’t talk about their anxieties and push them down into their stomach. Mimulus children often get stomach ache when they’re anxious. 

Sweet Chestnut is for anguish. Despair. The dark night of the soul: unendurable desolation and desperation.

These remedies will help you through the dark days of mental and emotional confusion.

If you or someone you know, suffers from despair and depression this blog here will help you to find Bach Flower Remedies to help.

You can mix up to 6 remedies together. I’ve written a blog on the most effective way to take the remedies, so perhaps you might like to have a look at that?

Mental health has been brought very much to the fore since Princes William and Harry admitted having difficulty dealing with their mother’s death. And now the Prince and Princess of Wales are championing the importance of Mental Health for happy and productive lives. Your mental and emotional health are everything.

I believe that feeling good is the most important thing in our lives and if you don’t feel good, then Bach Flower Remedies are a really simple way of healing your feelings. 

Click here to find out how you can study the Bach Flower Remedies so you can manage your own and your family’s emotions.

And over to you…

This is a long blog today because its such an important subject, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. 

As always, I love to hear from you.  Take care.  Rose.

The post Mental Awareness Week with Bach Flower Remedies appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

Back to School or going into ‘Big School’ can be traumatic for both children and parent’s. There was a lot of anxiety in the Cartwright household on the night before the First Day of school.   Mother had heard about the Bach Remedies, but didn’t know which ones would help her and her children through this very anxious time.

Just in case you’re going through the First Day Anxiety, I thought I’d give you some suggestions that might help your children – and of course, you too.

First day of school

Through the corner of his eye, even in his dimly light bedroom, Noah could see his new school shirt on the hanger on cupboard door. Although he tried not to look at it, he could see the neat pile of his shorts, undies and socks all ready for tomorrow.

It was not ‘back to school’ for Noah, it was his very first day at school – and he couldn’t sleep! He was tossing and turning. and his stomach was churning. He said it felt as if he had “butterflies and grasshoppers in his tummy”. He told his mum, he felt as if he was on the merry-go-round at the playground, as his thoughts kept going around and around.

Somtimes Noah was excited to go to school for the first time. Several of his friends from Preschool Nursery were going to the same school and that gave him some comfort. He’d been to the school many times with his Mum, to collect his eldest sister, but somehow, starting school himself was a very big step. He was not sure he was ready to be a ‘big boy’ just yet. Noah couldn’t sleep!

Back to school

Annabelle peeped through the crack in the door in her brother’s bedroom. He was tossing and turning, just as she had done all those years ago – and as she would probably do tonight as well.

Although Annabelle was going back to school, she too, had first-day-nerves. as she was now going into High School.

She walked softly to her own room to get her clothes ready for the morning. First day in High School! It’s really a big deal going from being a “big fish in a small pond to a small fish in a big pond” and she was anxious.

As she took her new (and freshly pressed) uniform out of the cupboard, she felt her stomach lurch and start to churn.  She too had some friends going to the same school, so she knew she wouldn’t be on her own. But…high school is a big deal!

As she prepared for bed, Annabelle thought: “HIGH SCHOOL”! I’m not grown up enough for High School! How am I going to cope? What happens if I get it wrong?”

..And she couldn’t stop these thoughts! No matter what she did, the thoughts came back, again and again.

And Mother and Father too

Mother was down stairs. She’d settled Noah the best she could and now Annabelle was getting ready for her big day.  Mother busied herself in the kitchen, tidying up things that were already tidy! She too was anxious about her ‘chickens’.   She’s been dreading ‘Back to School’ day for weeks.

Of course she was anxious for her children – but she also was worried about herself. It was a big step for her too, as she’d no longer have her ‘chickens’ at home to care and fuss over.  What was she going to do with her day?  There really is only so much satisfaction one can get from housework! 

She’d been thinking of joining some sort of group or club. She’d been ‘mother’ for so many years, that she didn’t have the confidence to go into the world again!

Just like Noah and Annabelle, mother’s thoughts were on the merry-go-round – going too fast and going nowhere.

The Back to School Bach Flower Mix

Although Mother, Annabelle and Noah are facing different challenges, they are really all have the same problem – they’re anxious about the changes and worried about not have the confidence to take the next step.  This mix of Remedies will help everyone who is facing similar situations.

Rescue Remedy – it does just that, it ‘Rescues’. It helps with panicky feelings and ‘sticks you back together again’.

Mimulus – is for ‘known’ anxieties. If you know what you’re worried about (back to school, a new life etc.)– then Mimulus will help you.

Larch – the brilliant self-confidence remedy.

Pine – for feelings of ‘getting it wrong’.

White Chestnut – to stop the merry-go-round of repeated thoughts.

Walnut  – both children and their mother are facing ‘life changes’ -going from one ‘life’ to another’. Walnut is the remedy that helps us deal with our change of circumstances.

This mix of remedies is not just for the first day of school, they will help you through any new situation!

Click here to find out how to make the mix and how to take the remedies.

The Bach Flower Remedies (you might call them Essences) are not just ‘sometimes’ remedies, they can support you all your life, as they have done for me.  Not only have they seen my family and I through new schools, they’ve seen us through changing continents 4 times! 

They’ve seen me through leaving my homeland, settling in foreign countries and then through the emotional financial trauma of divorce (at 62) and finally to settling in England and starting a business. 

Once you know about the remedies, they can help you through every situation, bringing balance, harmony and a sense of well-being.

Then you too, like me, will come to know which remedies your family need to help them through difficult situations.

And over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. I read and personally reply to all your comments. 

I look forward to hearing from you.

The post How Bach Flowers can help with ‘Back To School’ appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

I can show you a quick way to quell these feelings of frustration when things aren’t happening fast enough for you.

To do so, means telling you a story – one of my own stories (which I don’t often do).

Too much to do, too little time!

One day, needless to say, I was frustrated and irritable. I had too much to do in too little time (I know you can related to that) and my poor children were getting the brunt of my irritability. It must have seemed to them that they could do nothing right.

I’d picked them up for school after their afternoon sports. They were tired. It was a long day at school for little people and they were hungry, but for all that, they seemed to dawdle. I only realised 35 years later that children have no concept of time, so ‘hurry up’ means nothing to them.

But I was in a hurry.  There was still so much I had to do before the end of the day and they were taking so long getting into the car!

I was cross and irritable with them and so naturally, they picked up the feelings from me, and they were now squabbling with each other.  (You know how infectious feelings are).

This was not a good day – but wait a minute, isn’t every day sort of similar?

Short fuse snapped

Suddenly my short fuse snapped. I was finding it really hard to wait for them to get into the car. One of the other mums made a comment but unfortunately, but my feeble attempt at a tactful reply failed miserably!

“Hurry up” I said to the children. As they rushed to get into the car, my son dropped his bag and jumper. My daughter looked at me quickly, she knew there was more coming, so she turned quickly to run back to get her brother’s bag. My frustration mounted and I started to shout at them, and said forcibly “Get in the car. I’ll get the bag myself”.  (Have you noticed how, when you’re in a hurry, it’s alway quicker to do things yourself?)

Home to Impatiens

Home at last and to the blessed Impatiens I immediately put 2 drops into a glass of water started to sip it.

I could feel the tension leave my shoulders and neck.  I let out a long sigh. And, as quickly as you’re reading this, calm was restored.

The children were slow getting out of the car (keeping out of mother’s way as much as possible), but now I was content to wait. I said sorry to my beautiful children as I helped with loving kindness and care that had been inaccessible a few minutes ago. I was content to let them go at their own speed as I carried their school things into the house.

Changing frustration to patience.

Impatiens was the first Bach Remedy I ever took. And although I have elaborated a simple story to give you a full picture of Impatiens, I took it because I didn’t want to be cross and irritable with my beloved children.

Bach Flower Remedies have been by my side for 35 years and have seen me through a ‘lot of life’! They are more than a ‘quick emotional fix’, they are my path to self-knowledge and to finding my purpose in life. Click to find out more about this amazing healing system.

And over to you.

I do love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts, your comments and your questions too. I look forward to hearing from you.

The post Bach Blog. Irritable, Frustrated. A Quick Solution appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

Bach Flower Remedies help me deal with the intense heat!

Too hot to handle

So, how are you managing with the heat?

To find the right remedies to help you, first you have to identify how the heat makes you feel.

This is how I feel when the heat is too hot for me to handle. Perhaps you feel like this too?

• Feel ‘spaced out’ and can’t concentrate.
• Grumpy and irritable – my nerves seem frayed at the edges.
• Absolutly absolutely exhausted – I must lie down! 

Rescue Remedy

This amazing remedy is a combination of 5 remedies, 2 of them: Clematis and Impatiens will help you cope with the heat.

Clematis

The beautiful white flowers of Clematis helps with the ‘spaced out’ feeling that comes when we’re overheated and feeling faint. You know that floppy feeling when you can’t get your mind to focus. It’s not that you’re lying on the sofa, ideally day dreaming. No…Your mind won’t work!

Clematis will help to ground you – This is in Rescue Remedy

Impatiens

The heat seems to make us snappy and  irritable. We get and impatient with everyone about everything – This is in Rescue Remedy

Beech

The tall and majestic Beech is brilliant. It’s for when the heat is intolerable and you to become intolerant and critical of others.  (I know this is unusual for you, but the heat certainly does seems to affect our tolerance levels).

Olive

The gnarled and tired Olive tree gives us the remedy for physical fatigue. Take it when you’re feeling drained and exhausted. Olive will restore some of your energy.

Walnut is known as the ‘link breaker’ – so it;s good for when we move from one situation to another.
But, Bach put Walnut into the Group of Remedies who are ‘extremely acceptible to outside influences’…

So, right now, I’m extremely susceptible to the ‘outside influence’ of the heat – so I add it to my ‘Heat Mix’.

Please Remember

When you take the appropriate remedy for your feelings, the Bach Flower Remedies do work. But remember they work subtly and gently, and you might not realise you’re feeling better, until you notice that you’re doing more, or not needing to lie down for so long.

Dosage

(The Bach Flower Remedies brand of my choice is Healing Herbs and their ‘Rescue Remedy’ is called 5 Flower  – it’s made of a combination of 5 flowers).

Into a glass of water, put 2 drops of each of the remedies: Rescue/5 Flower, Beech, Olive and Walnut, and sip through out the day.  If you’re travelling, put your chosen remedies into a 500ml bottle of mineral water, but because there is more water in the bottle than a glass, this time put 3-4 drops of each of the remedies into the bottle and sip frequently.

This is your remedy-water, not your thirst water. Remember to drink more water in this hot weather, that you would do usual.

This mix helps me get through the heat of the day, so I hope it’ll help you too. 

Click here if you’d like to know more about the Bach Flower Remedies.

Over to you

As always, I love hearing from you. So please leave your thoughts and comments in the comment box below

The post Bach Blog: Too Hot To Handle appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

The result of being stressed is fears and anxieties.
What’s the difference?
The way I see the difference is the intensity of feelings.

So anxiety is worry about daily life – will the train be late?  Will the meeting with your boss go well today.  And don’t forget the children too, they suffer a huge amount of anxieties and fears.

I see fear as a really intense feeling that ‘controls’ your life.  If your anxieties stop you doing anything you want to do, I consider that fear, as against anxiety.

Anxiety can range from a subtle murmur in the pit of your stomach to being so intense that it restricts your chest and you can hardly breathe. This is the most intense form of fear and is generally what we call a ‘panic attack’.

And there are ‘knock-on’ effects of anxiety too.

Just for a moment, consider you’re anxious, really anxious about something particular you have to do, you’ll not have the confidence, and you might even be riddled with thoughts of “I’ll get it wrong”.

There are some really good remedy combinations to help you through your worries.

Here are a few Bach Flower Remedy suggestions that can help you with anxiety and the related feelings.

Mimulus

Mimulus is one of the most commonly bought remedies for anxiety – which shows how common anxiety is. Mimulus is for known fears.

If you know what you’re anxious about, then Mimulus will help you. If you need Mimulus, you’ll keep your worry to yourself, you won’t talk about it or discuss it. You’ll just push it down – probably into your stomach. A young child might not realise they’re anxious but will complain of stomach pains when they’re facing something new or they’re not sure about.

Rock Rose

Bach Flower Remedies are so much more than Rescue Remedy. There are 38 remedies that cover every emotion felt by mankind. You can discover in my many blogs, remedies that you might need, that you didn’t know about.

Larch

This is the confidence remedy…and it is absoltuely brilliant.

Here are a few other things that Larch can help: You don’t believe in yourself and/or you don’t attempt new things because you expect to fail.

This remedy will restore your confidence and as you take this remedy, you’ll find you’ll be less anxious.
You can see how Larch goes well with the anxiety and fear remedies. In fact, I would go so far as to say, don’t take one Mimulus without taking Larch.

Red Chestnut

Just a few words on Red Chestnut. This is the remedy to help if you’re really anxious about loved ones. These are trying times and I know that we’ve all had a lot to contend with and this has increased our worry about our family.

If you’re interested in find out about this natural, simple and extremely powerful healing system, get in touch with me. As you can tell – I just love them – and know you will too!

Over to You..

I hope you found the blog helpful. The remedies are natural, simple and safe to take. They make a tremendous difference in my life, and they can do in your’s too.

As always, I’d love to hear from you, so please leave our comments in the Comment Box below. 

I look forward to hearing from you. 

Thank you. Rose

The post A natural way to help you with Stress and Anxieties appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

This is not like my usual blogs but I believe it’s important.  I recently watched a programme about a young boy who was on the Autistic Spectrum.  It was very interesting, but so very sad – for the child and the parents. 

Please don’t click away now. 

I know this subject is not relevant to everyone. If it’s not for you, perhaps you know someone who it could help.  If publishing it can help just one child and one family then I’ll be content. There are so many children being born on the Spectrum and they don’t know how to live in our world.  They are frightened by our world: they live with intense anxiety (perhaps you couold call it panic) they feel isolated and lonely.

 

Help for those on the Autistic Spectrum 

 

Peter had been coming to see me for some time.  He was in a very difficult marriage with a young son. The Bach Flower Remedies “made life liveable” for Peter. 

However, Peter’s young son Tom, did not develop as he should and was soon diagnosed as being on the Autistic Spectrum.

Rescue Remedy now became the ‘glue’ that kept the family afloat.  It helped both parents and it helped young Tom a lot.  This is why.

 

Rescue Remedy

 

Rescue Remedy could have been specially ‘made’ Tom and others like him.  It contains 5 remedies mixed together that, when combined, they ‘Rescue’.  Just look at the healing that takes place with Rescue Remedy.  

 

Star of Bethlehem. The remedy made from this small white flower heals shock, trauma and sadness. The child in the TV programme was lonely – no one would play with him – and he was sad.  Let alone the trauma he had to face in daily life. And he said he was sad because he was different.

 

Rock Rose heals the fear that rises into panic, the intense anxity that overwhelms them, when the children have to go into a situation that’s unknown to them, or they’re being asked to remember something they’ve forgotten.  It helps when they’re in a situation they don’t know how to deal with.

Cherry Plum is brilliant for the obsessive thoughts: irrational thoughts that they can’t stop.  This remedy helps O.C.D: is soothing and healing.

Impatiens for the frustration they feel when they can’t do what they want to do: can’t find the words to say what they mean.  Impatiens soothes the frustration and irritability they feel.

Clematis is the grounding remedy.  It helps bring the daydreamers to earth.  Those on the Autistic Spectrum live in a different realm to us, Clematis can help ground them.

 

Other remedies that help

 

There are three other remedies that Peter found really helped Tom.

Heather.  After Rescue Remedy, Heather is the best remedy to help bring your children (or anyone one on the Spectrum) out of their shell and helps them deal better with life around them.  This remedy is essential to help everyone on the Spectrum.

 

Holly. The remedy made from the tiny white flowers of Holly is for anger and violent rage.  (No wonder – look at the prickly leaves!)  Tom would go beyond frustration and go into anger that he couldn’t control.  Peter soon learnt the signs that Tom was going into a Holly state, and would give him the remedy before he got out of control.   Holly heals and melts the anger, making life easier for Tom and for his family too.

 

Chestnut Bud is the remedy to help when we don’t learn something from experience.  It helps with the ability to absorb knowledge.   

This is the link to the blog on Chestnut Bud if you’d like to find out more.

 

Please Remember

 

Rescue Remedy and the other remedies will not ‘fix’ being on the Autistic Spectrum – but they certainly do help, bringing relief to both the child and the parents – as Nicki discovered.

 

Meet Noah

 

Nicki’s 9 year old son, Noah,  is on the Autistic Spectrum.  For some time, Nicki has been giving him 2 Sprays of Rescue Remedy his mouth, just before he goes into school every morning (and also when he was facing something he wasn’t comfortably with).

However, being a busy mum she would sometimes forget ‘ Spray’.  One day, when  she forgot the Spray, when she collected her son from school, she was met by the teacher with “You forgot today didn’t you?”

 

Even the teaching staff recognised the difference  Rescue Remedy made to Noah.

The Bach Flower Remedies are natural, simple to use and safe for everyone.  They makes life easier for the child, for the family and for the teachers too.  And, after all, isn’t that all everyone wants – to make life easier.

 

Dosage

 

If you have a spray – 2 sprays when needed will help the world go around.
(This is the most common brand of Bach Flower Remedies sold in UK.  But there are other brands available that are equally effective.)

If you use the liquid remedy, put 4 drops into approximate ½ pint (300mm) of water or drink, so they can drinking it throughout the day.

It will make a difference. 

Even if this blog doesn’t apply to you, perhaps you know someone who has a child on the Spectrum.  If so, please forwarded this to anyone you know that might find it helpful.  Thank you.

 

Over to you.

 

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts, comments, and of course questions.  I’m delighted to hear from you and I answer every comment myself.  

Take care, thank you for your help in sharing this blog. 

Warm wishes Rose

 

The post The A Word – Children on the Autistic Spectrum appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

Care for the Carers.

 

A few weeks ago, I caught a snippet of a short video on TV, of a man who was telling the presenter about how he was caring for his wife, whose dementia had got progressively worse over the last six years. 

His dear wife had all the emotional symptoms of dementia: no short term memory, was constantly wandering off looking for what, she didn’t know. And was extremely irritable and bad tempered when he tried to help her.

This poor man was at breaking point.  As he told the presenter of the problems of trying to care for his wife himself, and run the home (he had to give up work to look after his wife), he was on the verge of tears.

While watching this video, once again I thought (as I so often do) “I wish more poeple knew about the Bach Flower Remedies”.

There’s a vast army of people who work as Carers. And there’s an even bigger ‘army’ of people who care for their own family at home, do all that needs to be done for their family and loved ones.

All those who selflessly work in the Caring profession, whether its the hands-on carers like the man mentioned above, or the thousands upon thousands who work within the social care system – at some time, all need emotional care themselves. Probably more often they admit to themselves.

There’s lots of stories about those in need of care but not so many about Carers.  So I would like to share Wendy’s story with you.  It’s a little unusual, but it shows you how the remedies can work.
I knew Wendy and helped her choose the remedies that would help her the most.

 

Here is Wendy’s story….

 

Wendy is a prime example of a Carer needing care too. Wendy became a Carer suddenly and under very trying circumstances. 

Here is Wendy’s story of needing Care for the Carers.

She’d been married to Donald for over 25 years and she hadn’t been happy for a long time. In fact, for Wendy, life was pretty miserable. When she looked back, it seemed as if Donald’s character had been slowly changing over the last years and he had become – the only polite thing she could call him was – “a grumpy old sod!”

She’d seen the children grow up and they had now settled in their own lives, but she and Donald were not getting on. And she decided, that as she was a young 50, she was going to get a divorce and start to enjoy life.

 

Devastating News

 

And then came a cruel blow!  Both she and Donald were devastated by the news. The bottom fell out of their world when Donald was diagnosed with cancer!

Wendy was horrified – how could she possibly leave him now?  Well, the answer was simple – she couldn’t.

So, overnight Wendy had being a full-time Carer thrust upon her.

 

Change of attitude

 

She left her job, and continued to do all the normal things to run the house. She now realised she had to change her attitude. She had to start ‘caring for Donald’.  Donald now came first!

This change of attitude was hard for Wendy.  She was shocked by the news.  Although she could hardly admit it to herself, she was angry with him!  Just as she was going to have some freedom and start living her life again – he got sick!  Of course, she knew it wasn’t deliberate – but she felt she’d been dealt a rotten hand.  (Willow is the remedy for feeling as if you’ve been treated unfairly).  Wendy definitely felt she’d been treated unfairly – even before Donald became sick.

 

Increasing demands

 

Over the next 3 years, Donald’s care demanded much more of Wendy and she turned to the Bach Flower Remedies to help her get through each day.

Donald was irritable, intolerant and extremely critical of everything she did. According to Donald, she did everything wrong. No matter what she did, he was always angry with her and with life! She found his relentless anger and criticism very difficult to deal with and she too became irritable, angry and intolerant and would quickly slip into resentment (Willow).

 

Impatiens, Holly and Beech helped them both with their irritability, anger and intolerance. As their irritability and anger seemed to fuel each other, and these remedies helped them both.

 

Genuine regret

 

Slowly Wendy’s bitterness gave way to genuine regret that she hadn’t made more of an effort to make the marriage work. (Bach Flower Pine helped Wendy heal her feelings of guilt).

As Donald’s illness progressed, there was little time to feel anything but exhaustion. Some days she didn’t know how she found the strength to go on – but she did.  Olive and Oak helped with these feelings.

 

Gelief and Relief

 

Can two seemingly opposing emotions reside in us at the same time?

Yes they can.  We sometimes have so many feelings, seemingly all at once, that its hard to identify them.

 

Wendy was sitting with Donald, holding his hand, when he quietly slipped away.  It’s a debilitating and cruel disease and it had been a hard fight for him and an extremely exhausting time for Wendy.

She felt numb for a while, and used Rescue Remedy to help “stick herself back together” and to help with her grief. She grieved the loss of her husband and also the loss of a marriage that had ended up on the rocks soon after the children left home.

The years of caring had taken their toll on Wendy.  However, through the use of the Remedies she had changed and come to know herself a lot better.  But for now, she needed rest and reflection to allow the next stage of her life to unfold.

 

Recap of the remedies 

 

Rescue Remedy – with Star of Bethlehem for sadness and Impatiens for irritability about slowness.
Willow – for being angry when treated unfairly: leads to complaining, bitterness and resentment.
Beech – critical and intolerant of the characteristics of others.
Oak – for carrying on, even when exhausted.
Olive – for physical and mental fatigue.
Red Chestnut – for anxiety of loved ones.

Click here if you’d like the most effective way to take the remedies.

Perhaps you feel you’d like to make a difference in people’s lives and become a professional practitioner? – click here to find out more.

 

Over to you… 

 

As always, I love hearing from you, so please leave your comments in the Comment box below.  Leave your questions too.  I always answer all comments and questions myself.  Thank you for calling by.

 

 

 

The post Bach Flowers: Care for the Carers appeared first on The Bach Flower School.

There seems to have been a lot in the media about Dementia in the last couple of weeks.  So I thought I would tell you how Bach Flower Remedies (sometimes called Essences) can help those with Dementia.  No. Bach Flowers can’t cure this disease, but they can help with the confused feelings of the patient.

Dementia seems to be spreading fast.  And its really difficult for the sufferer to cope with, but the Bach Flower Remedies can bring relief.

I met John at one of my talks on Bach Flowers.  He approached me and asked if the remedies could help his wife Mary, who had Dementia. I told him they could.

Helping Others

The Remedies are natural and simple to use and can safely be used alongside medical drugs.  You can’t over dose and there are no side effects from the remedies.

This is what John told me about his wife.  He said  “I can’t tell how she feels, but she seems ‘lost’ and I know that trying to remember things makes her fearful and extremely anxious, also, she’s afraid of being left alone”.

All dementia patients seem to be afraid of being alone. This is because they have no short term memory and so don’t know where they are – or sometimes even who they are.  Bach Flower Remedies can help.

Remember to always seek medical attention when you’re ill.

Helping with Recommended Remedies

John said Mary’s mind was beginning to fade, so much so, that she had now lost her ‘point of reference’ that our memories give us.  She had no anchor and always felt lost.

And because Mary has no present day memories, she gets terribly anxious when she tries to remember anything, and so very naturally, she feels lost and is terrified of being left alone as she doesn’t know or remember where she is.

Although it might seem too simple, I gave Mary Rescue Remedy.  Rescue Remedy does just that – it rescues.

Why Rescue Remedy

Rescue Remedy is a combination of these 5 remedies below and I’ve also mentioned why these remedies helped Mary.

1) Star of Bethlehem is the remedy for shock, trauma and for sadness and its the remedy that ‘sticks us back together’ as it were. This is the ‘grief’ remedy.

2) Rock Rose is the remedy for ‘urgent fear’ or panic. John said Mary was extremely fearful and anxious. Intense anxiety is a feeling of panic.

3) Clematis is the ‘grounding’ remedy. This helped Mary come out of her thoughts.  It helped to ground her in the moment.

4) Cherry Plum is for obsessive thoughts. When you’re trying to remember something that is just beyond your mind, as you try to reach it, your thoughts will become obsessive. Cherry Plum is a very useful remedy.

5) Impatiens helped Mary when she had sudden outbusts of frustration and irritation. She would become very irriatble when she was trying to remember how to do something simple.

Although Rescue Remedy will do lots of good, it isn’t a panacea for all ills and Mary needed a few more remedies to help her. 

Click here to find out more about Rescue Remedy.

Helping with Recommended Remedies

I made up a treatment bottle for Mary with …

Rescue Remedy to ‘Rescue’ her intense anxiety and sadness.

Honeysuckle because she was living in the past. This remedy will bring her more into the present day.

White Chestnut to stop the repeated thoughts running through her head.

Larch to give Mary some confidence.

Heather to help connect her to daily life.

Walnut to help Mary move into the next stage of her life.

Click here to find out the most effective way to take the Bach Flower Remedies.

A treatment bottle should last about 3 to 4 weeks. Four weeks after giving John the bottle for Mary, I received a message asking for another bottle.

John was delighted with the result of the remedies. Mary was less stressed and the remedies had certainly reduced her anxiety. She was able to remember a few things and have short conversations.  And she seemed much happier in herself. I sent another bottle of the same combination.

About four weeks later, I received a message from John letting me know that Mary had passed on, peacefully in her sleep. He was very relieved that the last weeks of Mary’s life had seemed easier and that she’d gone peacefully. (John also mentioned that he was now taking Rescue Remedy to help with his grief.) 

I hope the blog is helpful and encourages you to perhaps find out more about these wonderful remedies. The blog however, is not intended to replace learning about the remedies, and how to use them. They will will you a life-long tool to help you and your loved ones navigate the trials of life.

I have a Foundation Course which is designed for you to help yourself and your family, and a Practitioner Diploma Course.

Over to You…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the comments box below. 

Thank you. Rose

The post Helping Others with Dementia appeared first on The Bach Flower School.