How do you Feel?

If you know me, then you know how often I ask “How do you feel”?

And if you’re feeling lonely right now, I’d ask you “How do you feel“?  I’d expect you to  say “Lonely.  I’m very  lonely”!

Your overwhelming feeling is that of sadness!

Dreadful State

Loneliness is a dreadful state. It’s one of the deepest states of despair and depression.  

We’re really just like bees. We like to live in a community; we constantly seek a sense of belonging and that one special relationship is so important to us.

There’s a common saying ‘no man is an island unto himself’.  We really do hate being alone.  It makes us sad and accentuates of feelings of worthlessness.

We need to be loved and we want to share our love with others. Being alone is foreign to us.

A True and Happy Story ...which could Help You!

I was holding a small Bach Flower afternoon workshop on Anxiety and Depression. Sue decided to come to the workshop as she wanted to be with people who were feeling like her. 

Her husband had died 10 months previously and she couldn’t get over it and was depressed. She said more than once how lonely she was and how the house was empty.    

What happened next was a surprise to her.

I’ll let Sue tell you herself...

Star of Bethlehem

The remedy: Star of Bethlehem brought about this amazing change.  Although Sue was depressed because she was still grieving for her lost husband and she was lonely! She was sad – very sad indeed.
This wonderful remedy is for shock and trauma and grief. And you can see how quickly it acts.

Star of Bethlehem is included in Rescue Remedy. So, when you’re lonely put 2 drops of Rescue Remedy into a glass of water and sip it frequently. 

Here are six Bach Remedies for Loneliness.

• Star of Bethlehem is for sadness and crisis. 
• Heather helps us connect to others.
• White Chestnut stops the merry-go-round of your thoughts going around and around. 
• Sweet Chestnut is for a deep state of despair that I mentioned earlier.
• Mimulus is to heal your anxieties
• Larch for self confidence 
  
  

How to Take Bach Flower Remedies...

In a small glass of water, mix together 2 drops of each of your chosen remedies and sip that water throughout the day and evening. Frequency of dose is much more important than the quantity.

Here is a video that tells you the way to take them, it's a quick watch  - just a couple of minutes long...

Over to You..

As you know, I love to hear from you so please leave your thoughts and comments and of course ask questions too.  I will always help if I can.

Rose

What to Do Next... 

I hope you have found this information helpful and that you see the immense power of the Bach Flower Remedies.

Although the Bach Flower Remedies healing system is extremely powerful... it can be tricky to get the nuances and pick just the right remedy (or remedies)!  

There is much to learn and if you are just starting out on your voyage of Bach discovery, then that's very exciting for you... and you have a few different options:

• You feel anxious or uneasy when routines are disrupted, even by small unexpected events.
• You prefer sticking to familiar habits and processes, even when they’re no longer efficient or enjoyable.
• You find yourself procrastinating on new tasks or decisions because they feel overwhelming or unfamiliar.
• You frequently seek reassurance before trying something new, wanting to know every detail in advance.
• You strongly dislike the risks that come with new opportunities, preferring the comfort of what’s known.
• You fell frustrated or stressed when others push for change, it feels more like pressure than support.
• You use phrases like “that’s just how I do it” or “it’s always worked this way” to justify staying in the same patterns.

If you recognise these situations, then you are likely in a state that Avoids Change and need to take the Walnut Bach Flower Remedy.

Developing an Walnut State?

Walnut is one of the most commonly bought remedies – but I think it’s also one of the most misunderstood remedies. It is known as ‘the link-breaker' is often taken when we think we need a change. But that’s not quite right.

Bach said that those in need of Walnut had ideals and ambitions and were rarely influenced by the opinions and enthusiasm of others. But when they were influenced by people who had enthusiastic ideas or were excited about a situation, Walnut would help them break that influence.

If this sounds like you... then likely you’re in need of the Bach Flower Remedy Walnut.

More details on Walnut

If you find you are sensitive to the things others say: even if you’re sensitive to the weather, Walnut will help you reduce your sensitivity.

Walnut helps to break the link between different stages in our lives: between childhood and teenage years, or between marriage and divorce, or between one job and another, or one town or country and another. It helps to break the influence of a person or a situation and leaves us free to follow through our own ideas and fulfil our own ambitions without being influenced by those of others.

It's also worth remembering that Bach Flower Remedies don’t change the world outside us – they change us...and Walnut helps us by changing us and reduces our sensitivity and this makes us more accepting of change.

A quick Video on How to Take Bach Flower Remedies...

This video is a just a couple of minutes long... 

Other remedies that can support a Walnut State

Humans are complex and emotions are complicated...  there are often a mixture of emotions that all go together. Quite commonly you might find that these two remedies will be needed along side Walnut:

Mimulus - for the anxieties of the day.
Scleranthus – for the many decisions her new apartment would bring.
Larch – to help her self-confidence.

What to Do Next... 

I hope you have found this information helpful and that you see the immense power of the Bach Flower Remedies.

Although the Bach Flower Remedies healing system is extremely powerful... it can be tricky to get the nuances and pick just the right remedy (or remedies)!  

There is much to learn and if you are just starting out on your voyage of Bach discovery, then that's very exciting for you... and you have a few different options:

• Your mind keeps going around and around: 
  • thinking the same thoughts
  • worrying about the same things
  • repeating thoughts over and over, either exactly the same or with only slight variations
• You have incessant repeated and often unwanted thoughts
• You often reply conversations in your head, analysing what was said and how it was interpreted.
• You find that you have difficulty in making decisions due to racing thoughts and worries about making the wrong choice.
• You can sometimes have trouble staying 'present' and drift off into thought loops.
• You have difficulty in getting to sleep as you are unable to quiet your mind.

If you recognise these situations, then you are likely in an Over-Thinking state and need to take the White Chestnut Bach Flower Remedy to break free.

Developing an White Chestnut State?

The mind’s ‘job’ is to find solutions to our problems, but our minds are constantly replaying conversations and arguments. When the mind can’t find a solution you'll enter repeated thought patterns. These can have negative, sometimes devastating effects on you and/or also on those around you.  

Nowadays we all live full and busy lives, and our minds are full of our problems and anxieties. The White Chestnut state is when your mind is constantly revisiting the same problems, worries and concerns keep going round and round, while the mind unsuccessfully seeks the solution. 

During the day you can push aside some of your concerns as we deal with practicalities, but at night, no matter how tired you are, as soon as your head touches the pillow, your mind becomes a merry-go-round and the same thoughts start going around again!

When our mind is stuck in this whirl of repeating thoughts, White Chestnut frees it by breaking the thought patterns.

More details on White Chestnut

The remedy White Chestnut is one of the most commonly used remedies, and I’m sure you can see why. Think back to the days when you used to go to the playground. Did you love or hate the merry-go-round? It always made me dizzy – and I don’t like being dizzy. I like to have a clear mind!  I don't like my mind to be on the merry-go-round... not many people do!  

If or when this thinking pattern descend upon you, the negative side effects can very quickly take hold - just a few nights of disturbed sleep can radically alter your perception of the world and your behaviour. That's why it's important that you recognise this early and that you take White Chestnut to calm your agitated mind... ease those circular thought patterns and restore your normal state of being.

A quick Video on White Chestnut

This video is a just a couple of minutes long... 

Other remedies that can support a White Chestnut State

Humans are complex and emotions are complicated...  there are often a mixture of emotions that all go together. Quite commonly you might find that these two remedies will be needed along side White Chestnut:

Mimulus – to help with the anxieties that are bedfellows for over-thinking.
Pine – for the feeling of done something wrong.
Scleranthus – to help make decisions.

When you are lacking self-confidence:

• You have no self belief.
• You expect to fail and/or have sub-optimal outcomes in whatever you are doing.
  .... so you don’t even try because:
  a) you can’t do it;
  b) even if you tried, you still couldn’t do it; and
  c) anyway someone else can do it so much better than you...
• You have feelings of 'lacking'... and this can lead to procrastination and deferral and difficulty starting/finishing things.
• You frequently compare yourself with others — feeling behind, not good enough, or assuming others are more capable.

If you recognise these and your confidence is easily shaken then this blog is for you!

You may need to take the Larch Bach Flower Remedy - for healing low self-confidence. Read on for more information...

Self-confidence (some call it self-esteem)

I believe that a solid self-confidence is the foundation of a happy and successful life.  

I also believe that lack of confidence can bring on anxieties and a profoundly deep depression which isn’t recognized as ‘lack of confidence’.  

If you've got confidence; if you've got this firm foundation of confidence, you will stand up and do anything you want to. You'll be able to face obstacles not knowing how you will overcome them but you will try because I've got the courage and the confidence to have a go at it. You can't have courage if you haven’t got confidence they go together. 

So despondency of not having any confidence to the point where you expect failure. Those lacking self-confidence are often very capable people, but in states of low self-confidence don't think that they are capable...  here's something to remember:

“Don't always believe what you think”.

Developing a Larch State?

If your confidence is very fragile, and if you’ve been frequently criticized or had someone tell you that you’re not good enough, or if you’ve really struggled to do something and someone else has done it effortlessly, you can easily be demoralized and have your confidence wiped out.

So many feelings spring from lack of confidence – feelings of anxiety, inferiority, loneliness, lack of worth and a deep depression, to mention just a few.

People suffering with self-doubt will procrastinate because they don't know what to do. They don't have the confidence to know what to do next and therefore procrastinate and go into despondency. The depression and the despondency and the despair of Larch is so deep sometimes so deep that it's difficult to see that it is quote “only lack of confidence”

If this sounds like you... then likely you’re in need of the Bach Flower Remedy Larch.

A quick Video on Larch

This video is a just a couple of minutes long... 

Other remedies that can support a Larch State

Humans are complex and emotions are complicated...  there are often a mixture of emotions that all go together. Quite commonly you might find that these two remedies will be needed along side Larch:

Mimulus – anxieties about life (The Silent Worrier)
Pine – for those who feel they’ve done something wrong; and feel shame

What to Do Next... 

I hope you have found this information helpful and that you see the immense power of the Bach Flower Remedies.

Although the Bach Flower Remedies healing system is extremely powerful... it can be tricky to get the nuances and pick just the right remedy (or remedies)!  

There is much to learn and if you are just starting out on your voyage of Bach discovery, then that's very exciting for you... and you have a few different options:

• You are normally confident, but something about an important project seems too big for you to handle right now.
• You have temporarily lost connection to your purpose because your current situation is just too difficult to cope with.
• You feel over-whelmed, but not by the feeling of too much to do in too little time, it’s more a feeling of being overwhelmed by responsibility.
• You have periods when you feel like the task undertaken has such enormity and is just too difficult and you don’t know what to do.
• You feel exhausted but also feel that you can’t ‘walk-away’ from your responsibilities.

If so, then you may be in an ‘Elm State’ and need to take the Elm Bach Flower Remedy.

Developing an Elm State?

The interesting thing about the Elm State and this feel of being inundated with responsibility, without knowing what to do, is that it is not something that appears suddenly… it creeps up on you. Slowly. Day by day...

Do you recognise this too…? That this feeling has been brewing for quite some time now…

Well… now you know!

If this is you... then you’re in need of the Bach Flower Remedy Elm - for when you feel overwhelmed by the responsibility of a particular project...

The Background to the Elm 

Elm is in the biggest group of remedies that Bach recognised were for those who are depressed or in despair. This remedy is for when we loose our self-confidence when we’re overwhelmed by the weight of the work we’re doing (in the service of mankind).

My Personal Reflections

Like most people, I don’t see the Elm state coming on for my own situation. I certainly wouldn’t call myself ‘depressed’ at these times, although the sofa does seem to have a strong magnetic pull and I’ve gone ‘beyond’ thinking. 

I do believe I have the passion to spread the brilliance and power of the Bach Flower Remedies far and wide. I have the passion to teach others to use the remedies so they can help themselves and others, and I recognise that I have the gifts and talents to do that, but I am still learning the necessary skills. I sometimes feel overwhelmed that we are all 'swimming upstream'... that the is too much to do and it's all just impossible. I can't do it... nobody could do it. It's impossible and there's no way out of that situation.  That's pure 'elm'.

Your own Unique Situation

If what you’re trying to achieve feels too much for you to do on your own: if you feel you don’t have the confidence to even begin to take steps forward then you need Elm.
Although I’ve mentioned spreading the word of Bach as my ‘path in life’ and sometimes it feels a heavy responsibility, but there are other examples of feeling the weight of responsibility.  Imagine how difficult it can be for a single parent to work and bring up children the best they can.  This is a really important job.  There are other circumstances too, when the weight of your work can knock your confidence.

Elm, like Larch and Cerato, is fundamentally a confidence remedy.

Other remedies that can support an Elm State

Humans are complex and emotions are complicated...  there are often a mixture of emotions that all go together. Quite commonly you might find that these two remedies will be needed along side Elm:

Wild Oat – to help you find direction in life.
Mimulus – if you’re anxious you can’t do what needs to be done.

What to Do Next... 

I hope you have found this information helpful and that you see the immense power of the Bach Flower Remedies.

Although the Bach Flower Remedies healing system is extremely powerful... it can be tricky to get the nuances and pick just the right remedy (or remedies)!  

There is much to learn and if you are just starting out on your voyage of Bach discovery, then that's very exciting for you... and you have a few different options:

• You were quiet a shy child at school, afraid of being noticed or picked on?.
• You have a history of being bullied that has left you anxious about most things in life.
• Perhaps you stammer and stutter or perhaps you blush very easily.
• You remember the tummy aches you would get the night before you had a test or to read out loud in class.
• You feel worried and anxious about everyday things in life.
• You worry  about real things that exist and you feel this fear to the core of your being.
• You might have a constant internal dialogue, despite not showing any obvious signs of stress.
• You are thought of as quiet and mild, but you do have courage!

If you recognise these and you keep these thoughts, feelings and worries to yourself...whilst trying to portray a calm exterior, then you are likely in a Silent Worrier state and need to take the Mimulus Bach Flower Remedy.

Developing an Mimulus State?

The interesting thing about the Mimulus state often develops first as a child. You may not have been aware of feeling anxious as a young child; but you probably felt worried or reluctant to enter into life, to engage with people and experiences.  

But, as you’ve gone through life, have you found that you’re afraid of almost everything – from ‘normal things’ like spiders or flying, or even sometimes just crossing a busy road!

If this sounds like you... then likely you’re in need of the Bach Flower Remedy Mimulus.

More details on Mimulus

The remedy Mimulus is about fear and anxieties of daily life. It’s the remedy for what we call ‘known fears’. If you know what you’re afraid of – whether it’s flying, falling ill, escalators, or anything (and everything) else, then Mimulus will help with your anxieties.

The need for Mimulus manifests as a visceral fear felt within the core of your being, which feels emotionally toxic.  The Silent Worrier Mimulus doesn’t talk about their anxieties, though. They keep them to themselves – and often push them down into their stomach and have ‘butterflies in the stomach’.  

Sometimes applying logic gives you the ability to face your challenges.

A quick Video on Mimulus

This video is a just a couple of minutes long... 

Other remedies that can support a Mimulus State

Humans are complex and emotions are complicated...  there are often a mixture of emotions that all go together. Quite commonly you might find that these two remedies will be needed along side Mimulus:

Larch – brings self confidence. 
Pine – for feelings ‘done wrong’ and shame. 

What to Do Next... 

I hope you have found this information helpful and that you see the immense power of the Bach Flower Remedies.

Although the Bach Flower Remedies healing system is extremely powerful... it can be tricky to get the nuances and pick just the right remedy (or remedies)!  

There is much to learn and if you are just starting out on your voyage of Bach discovery, then that's very exciting for you... and you have a few different options: