Loneliness is one of the deepest of all our emotions. It’s right down there with feelings of worthlessness that create a hollow feeling inside. It’s a dreadful feeling. Even if you’re not feeling lonely now, I know you’ve been there. We all have – often.

The next step down from loneliness is hopelessness and despair and the feeling that life has no meaning. This is a dark place to be.

Is this something I should be talking about with Valentines Day just around the corner? However, if you’ve got something planned you’ll probably not be reading this. But, if you’re lonely right now – then this is something that is uppermost in your mind.

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Do you recognise any of these traits in yourself?

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Bach Flower Remedies, a gentle and natural system developed by Edward Bach in the 1930s, offers a holistic approach to managing emotional well-being during this seasonal shift.

One of the key benefits of Bach Flower Remedies in autumn is their ability to support you through your emotional ups and downs, as we put the clocks back and our daylight hours decrease and routines change.

For some, the shorter days and longer nights can lead to feelings of sadness, lethargy, or even mild depression, commonly known as the “autumn blues”.

Remedies such as Mustard can be particularly helpful for those experiencing unexplained gloom, while Walnut is often used to assist with adapting to change, making it ideal for those struggling with the chilly and damp weather of Autumn (Autumn is often ‘flu weather!)

Autumn Bach Remedies

Autumn can also bring about increased stress and anxiety as the pace of life picks up after the summer holidays, with work, school, and family commitments intensifying.

So again Bach Flower Remedies can come to the rescue!

Autumn Bach Remedies for Stress and Anxiety

There is a Bach Flower Remedy for every negative emotion you have, I’ve just given you a few suggestions to help you. 

These remedies are a safe, non-addictive way to nurture emotional strengths, bring peace of mind during autumn enabling individuals to embrace the season’s changes with greater ease and well-being.

Over to you

And now, as always, it’s over to you.  If you have any questions or would like to leave a comment in comment box below, please do. I always read all your thoughts and comments on the Bach Remedies.  

I look forward to hearing from you.

Thank you.

 

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Children are charming and delightful – until they’re not!  And then, on my goodness, they are a challenge. If you have young children then you understand what I mean.

Changing grumpy children into happy children is ‘child’s play’ with Bach Flower Remedies.  

The remedies are perfectly safe to give to children and they heal and soothe upsets and troubles as simply as you can count 1, 2, 3.

There are 38 remedies which cover every one of our feelings. But as some remedies are similar, it can be quite difficult to choose the best remedies to help your children (and yourself too).

I recently met a lovely group of young mothers who were curious about alternative ways to help their children (and themselves) through the trials and tribulations of life. Through the magic of technology, at the click of a button, I was instantly transported into 7 living rooms in eastern America, talking to 7 mums who wanted to know how Bach Flower Remedies could help their children – and they had a list of questions for me.

The Terrible Twos

Most of the mums had toddlers who seemed to be starting their Terrible Twos early as they were beginning to show their strength of will and their independence. They were being stubborn and having tantrums.

Most of the mums had toddlers who seemed to be starting their Terrible Twos early as they were beginning to show their strength of will and their independence. They were being stubborn and having tantrums.

Holly. Tantrums are like child’s play to deal with Bach Flowers. Holly fits the tantrum scenario perfectly.

This remedy is for the anger we feel when we’ve been treated unfairly. And yes, a toddler can feel that. They’re naturally curious and want to explore everything and when they’re stopped; when they can’t do what they want, they get really cross and sometimes violent too. Holly will help heal and soothe the Terrible Twos just as it’ll help and soothe you, when you’re angry about life.

Young Lilly wakes from her afternoon sleep screaming and is very angry. If her mother tries to pick her up or console her, she gets even angrier and hits her mother. Holly will soothe little Lilly and save her mother from a lot of heart ache.

Young children can get jealous easily. Holly heals jealousy. Even when your pets are jealous of the new baby, Holly will sort that out too (2 drops in the dogs drinking water for a few days and you’ll see the difference).

Clinging and anxious

Sarah mentioned that 2-year-old Amy was clinging and was always anxious.

Children are naturally curious so, if they’re reluctant to try something new, this could be caused by a lack of confidence mixed up with their anxiety.

I recommended that Amy be given Mimulus. Mimulus people are gentle and kind and anxious about life. It’s the remedy for known fears – like fear of spiders, fear of dogs, fear of flying etc. Those in need of Mimulus are anxious about most things in life.

Larch is the remedy for self-confidence. A child who is hesitant about attempting new things will benefit from being given Larch.

You can see that Larch and Mimulus go really well together and I suggested that Sarah give little Amy both these remedies. It’s that easy – like child’s play. (I’ve covered how to give the remedies towards the end of the blog).

Night terror panic

Night Terrors are dreadful things. Nancy’s daughter, Alicia, was having night terrors. She was waking in the night, crying and really frightened. It’s very upsetting for the child and the mother.

I recommended that Nancy give Alicia either Rescue Remedy – (or Rock Rose) – and Aspen. (Rescue Remedy contains Rock Rose. Nancy’s more likely to have Rescue than Rock Rose). Rock Rose is the remedy for ‘urgent fear’ that we call panic!

Aspen is for unknown fears. We feel afraid without being able to identify what we’re afraid of.

Stress of motherhood

This deserves to be a blog in its own right, but I’ll add a little here about the stresses of motherhood to help young mums.

Mothers want to do their very best for their children and are inclined to chew over the past and are hyper vigilant about every detail – everything must be ‘just right’. A lot of mothers can have a perfectionist-nature when it comes to how they bring up their children. They are very frightened about not getting it right.

Now a third remedy joins the Larch and Mimulus combination to make a brilliant trio…

Pine is the remedy for feelings of “I’ve done it wrong” and “I could have/should have done so much better. I didn’t do enough”.  It’s the remedy you need when you beat yourself up.

Young mothers always have too much to do in too little time. And for years they don’t get a full night’s sleep!

If you find you’re not getting enought sleep and are exhausted, Olive is the remedy for fatigue and will help you through the day. 

Vervain is the remedy for being over stressed – trying to achieve too much in too little time.

If you become irritable when you are stressed and exhausted, Impatiens is the remedy that will help you – and of course your children too, when they’re grumpy and irritable.

Taking the remedies is like Child’s Play

It’s easy and simple to take the remedies. There are 3 ways to take the remedies – all are effective, and one way is not any better than the others. One is much more expensive than the others – but all methods work well.

1. Put 2 drops of Rescue (and 2 of every other remedy) straight on to the tongue. The remedies are preserved in brandy and the strong taste is a shock to the children. Please be kind to your children – don’t give the remedies straight from the bottle. Put the remedies in water, milk or juice.
2. Put the drops into a small glass of water and sip frequently throughout the day.
3. For long-term treatment, make a Treatment bottle. This is a 30ml bottle with a dropper. Fill the treatment bottle to the shoulder with mineral or filtered water and add your chosen remedies. Then take 4 drops from that bottle at least 4 times a day or put 4 drops into a glass of water and sip frequently throughout the day.

It may seem a lot to take in, but when you actually do it, you’ll find how easy it is. It’s child’s play and then you’ll be able to watch your children play happily and contentedly.

The Bach Flower Remedies have been my constant companion for over 30 years. They have stood by me and helped me deal with some really hard times in life.

If you would like to have this support, the fact that they’ve “got your back” as it were and can help you with absolutely every situation, then click here to find out how you too can manage your own emotions and the feelings of your family.

Over to you

If you know someone whose interested in the Bach Flower Remedies, or who could benefit from these remedies, please forward this blog.

I love to hear from you, so please leave your comments in the Comment Box below.  

Thank you.

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‘Depression’ seems to cover a number of feelings that are all involved with poor ‘mental health’.

There are two words that comes to my mind in connection with Mental Health and they are ‘Anxiety’ and ‘Depression’ and anyone who lives with either or both of these feelings often suffers from severe loneliness.

So it seems to me, that its a vicious circle, because these feelings feed each other constantly. 

The way I see it is, that ‘depression’ is the result of anxiety and lack of confidence, at a very deep level,  that we’ve lived with for longer than we realise. And there’ll be a few other feelings in there too: self blame for example.  

I have been using Bach Flower Remedies for over 40 years for myself, my family and my clients. These amazing remedies can heal painful feelings and as I’m sure you know, we’re all different and we react to experiences in different ways, so we often need different remedies. It might be that two people with seemingly similar ‘depressions’ might need different remedies for a healing.  

So I’ve put together a few suggestions for Bach Flower Remedies that could perhaps help you out of the mist and on the road to recovery.    

One of the best ways to help you choose remedies for yourself, is to use the Bach Flower Guides. I’m often asked what’s the difference between anxiety and panic. It is the intensity of your feelings that’s different. You can find out this, and more about the remedies from the Guides.

If you feel really intense anxiety that changes how you live, that is Rock Rose.  

If you’re a ‘worrier’ and are anxious about the things of everyday life, that needs Mimulus.

If you find it confusing to select the best remedy to help you, these Bach Flower Guides below will help you.

Here are some remedies that can help you with Depression and Anxiety:

Rescue Remedy – its brilliant in emergency situations and for grief. It ‘sticks you back together’ when you feel you’re ‘falling apart’. So this remedy can do a lot of good to everyone with Depression. Rescue Remedy contains Rock Rose, the remedy for panic and intense anxiety and Star of Bethlehem is for shock, trauma and sadness – even if your feelings are from childhood.

Mustard for a depression that comes on suddenly, out of the blue. It’s as if a dark cloud falls on you and you feel as if you’re living in fog. Your mind isn’t working and you’ve no clarity of thought. The most important indicator for Mustard, is there appears to be no cause for these awful feelings.

Larch is for the lack of self-confidence. Few realise that lacking confidence can put you into an extremely deep state of despair. You don’t try to do anything because you believe you can’t do it – and everyone can do it better than you. So you don’t try.

Pine is for self-reproach, it’s for when thoughts similar to “I should have done better. I could have done more. I wish I hadn’t said this or done that” run through your mind. I’m sure you know what I mean. We all need Pine at some time.  

Mimulus –  If you know what you’re afraid of, Mimulus is for you. Mimulus is afraid of ‘life’  They don’t talk about their anxieties and push them down into their stomach. Mimulus children often get stomach ache when they’re anxious. 

Sweet Chestnut is for anguish. Despair. The dark night of the soul: unendurable desolation and desperation.

These remedies will help you through the dark days of mental and emotional confusion.

If you or someone you know, suffers from despair and depression this blog here will help you to find Bach Flower Remedies to help.

You can mix up to 6 remedies together. I’ve written a blog on the most effective way to take the remedies, so perhaps you might like to have a look at that?

Mental health has been brought very much to the fore since Princes William and Harry admitted having difficulty dealing with their mother’s death. And now the Prince and Princess of Wales are championing the importance of Mental Health for happy and productive lives. Your mental and emotional health are everything.

I believe that feeling good is the most important thing in our lives and if you don’t feel good, then Bach Flower Remedies are a really simple way of healing your feelings. 

Click here to find out how you can study the Bach Flower Remedies so you can manage your own and your family’s emotions.

And over to you…

This is a long blog today because its such an important subject, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. 

As always, I love to hear from you.  Take care.  Rose.

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Back to School or going into ‘Big School’ can be traumatic for both children and parent’s. There was a lot of anxiety in the Cartwright household on the night before the First Day of school.   Mother had heard about the Bach Remedies, but didn’t know which ones would help her and her children through this very anxious time.

Just in case you’re going through the First Day Anxiety, I thought I’d give you some suggestions that might help your children – and of course, you too.

First day of school

Through the corner of his eye, even in his dimly light bedroom, Noah could see his new school shirt on the hanger on cupboard door. Although he tried not to look at it, he could see the neat pile of his shorts, undies and socks all ready for tomorrow.

It was not ‘back to school’ for Noah, it was his very first day at school – and he couldn’t sleep! He was tossing and turning. and his stomach was churning. He said it felt as if he had “butterflies and grasshoppers in his tummy”. He told his mum, he felt as if he was on the merry-go-round at the playground, as his thoughts kept going around and around.

Somtimes Noah was excited to go to school for the first time. Several of his friends from Preschool Nursery were going to the same school and that gave him some comfort. He’d been to the school many times with his Mum, to collect his eldest sister, but somehow, starting school himself was a very big step. He was not sure he was ready to be a ‘big boy’ just yet. Noah couldn’t sleep!

Back to school

Annabelle peeped through the crack in the door in her brother’s bedroom. He was tossing and turning, just as she had done all those years ago – and as she would probably do tonight as well.

Although Annabelle was going back to school, she too, had first-day-nerves. as she was now going into High School.

She walked softly to her own room to get her clothes ready for the morning. First day in High School! It’s really a big deal going from being a “big fish in a small pond to a small fish in a big pond” and she was anxious.

As she took her new (and freshly pressed) uniform out of the cupboard, she felt her stomach lurch and start to churn.  She too had some friends going to the same school, so she knew she wouldn’t be on her own. But…high school is a big deal!

As she prepared for bed, Annabelle thought: “HIGH SCHOOL”! I’m not grown up enough for High School! How am I going to cope? What happens if I get it wrong?”

..And she couldn’t stop these thoughts! No matter what she did, the thoughts came back, again and again.

And Mother and Father too

Mother was down stairs. She’d settled Noah the best she could and now Annabelle was getting ready for her big day.  Mother busied herself in the kitchen, tidying up things that were already tidy! She too was anxious about her ‘chickens’.   She’s been dreading ‘Back to School’ day for weeks.

Of course she was anxious for her children – but she also was worried about herself. It was a big step for her too, as she’d no longer have her ‘chickens’ at home to care and fuss over.  What was she going to do with her day?  There really is only so much satisfaction one can get from housework! 

She’d been thinking of joining some sort of group or club. She’d been ‘mother’ for so many years, that she didn’t have the confidence to go into the world again!

Just like Noah and Annabelle, mother’s thoughts were on the merry-go-round – going too fast and going nowhere.

The Back to School Bach Flower Mix

Although Mother, Annabelle and Noah are facing different challenges, they are really all have the same problem – they’re anxious about the changes and worried about not have the confidence to take the next step.  This mix of Remedies will help everyone who is facing similar situations.

Rescue Remedy – it does just that, it ‘Rescues’. It helps with panicky feelings and ‘sticks you back together again’.

Mimulus – is for ‘known’ anxieties. If you know what you’re worried about (back to school, a new life etc.)– then Mimulus will help you.

Larch – the brilliant self-confidence remedy.

Pine – for feelings of ‘getting it wrong’.

White Chestnut – to stop the merry-go-round of repeated thoughts.

Walnut  – both children and their mother are facing ‘life changes’ -going from one ‘life’ to another’. Walnut is the remedy that helps us deal with our change of circumstances.

This mix of remedies is not just for the first day of school, they will help you through any new situation!

Click here to find out how to make the mix and how to take the remedies.

The Bach Flower Remedies (you might call them Essences) are not just ‘sometimes’ remedies, they can support you all your life, as they have done for me.  Not only have they seen my family and I through new schools, they’ve seen us through changing continents 4 times! 

They’ve seen me through leaving my homeland, settling in foreign countries and then through the emotional financial trauma of divorce (at 62) and finally to settling in England and starting a business. 

Once you know about the remedies, they can help you through every situation, bringing balance, harmony and a sense of well-being.

Then you too, like me, will come to know which remedies your family need to help them through difficult situations.

And over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. I read and personally reply to all your comments. 

I look forward to hearing from you.

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The result of being stressed is fears and anxieties.
What’s the difference?
The way I see the difference is the intensity of feelings.

So anxiety is worry about daily life – will the train be late?  Will the meeting with your boss go well today.  And don’t forget the children too, they suffer a huge amount of anxieties and fears.

I see fear as a really intense feeling that ‘controls’ your life.  If your anxieties stop you doing anything you want to do, I consider that fear, as against anxiety.

Anxiety can range from a subtle murmur in the pit of your stomach to being so intense that it restricts your chest and you can hardly breathe. This is the most intense form of fear and is generally what we call a ‘panic attack’.

And there are ‘knock-on’ effects of anxiety too.

Just for a moment, consider you’re anxious, really anxious about something particular you have to do, you’ll not have the confidence, and you might even be riddled with thoughts of “I’ll get it wrong”.

There are some really good remedy combinations to help you through your worries.

Here are a few Bach Flower Remedy suggestions that can help you with anxiety and the related feelings.

Mimulus

Mimulus is one of the most commonly bought remedies for anxiety – which shows how common anxiety is. Mimulus is for known fears.

If you know what you’re anxious about, then Mimulus will help you. If you need Mimulus, you’ll keep your worry to yourself, you won’t talk about it or discuss it. You’ll just push it down – probably into your stomach. A young child might not realise they’re anxious but will complain of stomach pains when they’re facing something new or they’re not sure about.

Rock Rose

Bach Flower Remedies are so much more than Rescue Remedy. There are 38 remedies that cover every emotion felt by mankind. You can discover in my many blogs, remedies that you might need, that you didn’t know about.

Larch

This is the confidence remedy…and it is absoltuely brilliant.

Here are a few other things that Larch can help: You don’t believe in yourself and/or you don’t attempt new things because you expect to fail.

This remedy will restore your confidence and as you take this remedy, you’ll find you’ll be less anxious.
You can see how Larch goes well with the anxiety and fear remedies. In fact, I would go so far as to say, don’t take one Mimulus without taking Larch.

Red Chestnut

Just a few words on Red Chestnut. This is the remedy to help if you’re really anxious about loved ones. These are trying times and I know that we’ve all had a lot to contend with and this has increased our worry about our family.

If you’re interested in find out about this natural, simple and extremely powerful healing system, get in touch with me. As you can tell – I just love them – and know you will too!

Over to You..

I hope you found the blog helpful. The remedies are natural, simple and safe to take. They make a tremendous difference in my life, and they can do in your’s too.

As always, I’d love to hear from you, so please leave our comments in the Comment Box below. 

I look forward to hearing from you. 

Thank you. Rose

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You might not realise it, (unless you’ve experienced it) that a lack of confidence has far reaching effects. It can bring deep despair and a “depression” that affects every area of life. These days the word ‘depression’ is handed out to almost everyone who has difficulty dealing with some parts of life.

Like a rotten apple in the barrel, it only takes one apple to infect the whole barrel…and a lack of courage and confidence is the same – it infects every area of life.

Here’s Jessica’s story

Jesscia had been self-conscious since early childhood. She can still remember how embarrassed she got when people talked to her and how she always felt she couldn’t do as well as the other children her age.

She didn’t mix well with others, so was inclined to kept to herself.

But there’s more and I wonder if you can relate to any of these:

• You automatically feel inferior to others.
• You admire people who are successful, but don’t believe you’re capable of being successful yourself.
• You expect failure.
• Have used illness as an excuse so you don’t have to tackle something.
• Feel useless and have no feelings of self-worth or self-esteem.

If so, your problem is simple – just like Jessica and you’re filled with self-doubt, you lack self- confidence.

It’s so quick and simple to say, and yet the lack of confidence, and having no courage, has a profound effect and influences every part of your life – it is the ‘rotten apple’ that affects the whole barrel.

Back to Jessica

As you can imagine, Jessica never made much of her career – even though she was quite capable. She did her work – but never any more. She’d never take risks or applied for promotion.

Jessica sat at the back of the office and plodded along. She was not prepared to step ‘outside the  box’ because she was absolutely convinced she would fail. She knew what she could do and she stuck to it.

Do you doubt yourself and lack confidence? 

It’s a blunt question I know, particularly as we might not know each other well. If you do then, relax, I know how you feel – because I’ve been there – more often than I’d care to admit!  And I have a solution for you, so read on. I’ve suffered with self-doubt and have felt the knock-on effects all my life.

How well I remember trying to work out which remedy I needed when I first started to use the Bach Remedies. Not only did I find it difficult to identify how I felt but I couldn’t work out which remedy I needed. I didn’t realise then that we could have more than one feeling at once!

But we do, all the time. No wonder you find it difficult to identify how you feel.

A Nervous Breakdown

Jessica had never been good at handling the stress of life and some years ago had a nervous breakdown.

How does a  ‘nervous breakdown’ show itself? For Jessica, it showed at first as an extremely severe bout of debilitating ‘flu, which hung about for months. She was emotionally and physically exhausted. She didn’t have the power: the confidence to face the world.

She was severely shaken by her bout of flu and she lost what little confidence she had and so had not been able to return to work.

During this time Jessica felt very alone. She’d often felt lonely but didn’t have the courage or confidence to meet new people and try new things. She blamed herself for not doing what she felt she should have done to live a fulfilling life. She said she felt she was constantly living with an undercurrent of shame and guilt that she hadn’t done more with her life.

Not Sleeping Well

Jessica wasn’t sleeping well either.  She would wake around 3 am with the same anxieties: the same worrying thoughts night after night.  She said it was rather like all her thoughts jumped onto a child’s merry-go-round and played there for hours. She couldn’t find a solution to any of her problems and night after night she would be awake while her troubles played on the merry-go-round.

Jessica was tired – exhausted in fact. She wanted to feel better and hoped to regain enough confidence to be able to go back to work.

So I mixed the following remedies together, especially for Jessica’s feelings.

The Courage and Confidence Mix

Larch – for self-confidence

Mimulus– gives courage to face the anxieties of life

Pine – to help heal the shame and guilt she felt for not trying to live a happier and more fulfilling life.

White Chestnut – to stop the unresolved thoughts from going around and around.

Olive – to help with fatigue and exhaustion

Gentian – as she was very discouraged from the set-back of his illness.

I’m sure you can relate to some of these feelings (if not all of them) and you can see how these remedies all work together beautifully to strengthen and give courage and confidence.

If you’re not sure to take the Remedies, click here for the most effective way to take Bach Flower Remedies.

If you’re lack of confidence has gone so deep that its turned into depression, perhaps this article will help you.

Over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your comments in the Comment Box below the blog – and of course ask your questions too. 

I look forward to hearing from you. Rose

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