If you’re struggling with anxieties, feelings of  sadness, isolation, or despair, these remedy suggestions can provide the healing support you need.

Understanding Depression

Over the years, I’ve come to realise that anxiety can lead to a loss of confidence, and when our confidence is low, anxiety has more opportunity to breed. These two feelings often become intertwined with sadness, loneliness, guilt and shame and pushes us into despair. Before long, all these feelings become so mixed up that it’s difficult to distinguish one from another.

The feelings of depression are all linked and each can influence the others.

Bach Flower Remedies for Depression

Bach Flowers work by addressing the emotional root of these feelings, helping you regain a sense of inner peace and connection.

Here are some suggestions to help with your feelings of depression…

Mustard – For sudden, unexplained sadness. This depression descends suddenly like a black cloud and you seem to live in a fog.  (Mustard – no cause for the depression). Mustard helps restore joy and lightness.

Gentian – If you need Gentian, it’s the depression, disappointment and being discouraged that comes on after a setback. (Gentian – a definite experience causes the depression). Gentian restores our faith in the process of life.

Please Note: You don’t need both Mustard and Gentian as Mustard is for when there is no cause for the depression and Gentian is for when there is a definite cause for the depression.

Rescue Remedy – Contains Rock Rose for intense anxieties, Star of Bethlehem for sadness and trauma and Impatiens for irritation at slowness.

Sweet Chestnut – For deep despair and anguish: there are feelings of being at the end of your endurance. This is the remedy for the dark night of the soul. Sweet Chestnut offers comfort and hope.

Pine – If self-blame and guilt weighs you down, Pine helps release self-blame and fosters self-acceptance.

Larch – is the confidence remedy. You might not realise it but the lack of confidence can lead to a very deep and debilitating depression. Larch will restore confidence and allow you to enjoy life.

How to use Bach Flowers

Bach Flower Remedies are taken as drops in water or directly on the tongue. You can combine up to six remedies to tailor them to your emotional needs.

Healing takes time, but with Bach Flowers, you can gently guide yourself back to balance, rediscovering joy and connection.

Over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment box below.

Thank you.

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Children are charming and delightful – until they’re not!  And then, on my goodness, they are a challenge. If you have young children then you understand what I mean.

Changing grumpy children into happy children is ‘child’s play’ with Bach Flower Remedies.  

The remedies are perfectly safe to give to children and they heal and soothe upsets and troubles as simply as you can count 1, 2, 3.

There are 38 remedies which cover every one of our feelings. But as some remedies are similar, it can be quite difficult to choose the best remedies to help your children (and yourself too).

I recently met a lovely group of young mothers who were curious about alternative ways to help their children (and themselves) through the trials and tribulations of life. Through the magic of technology, at the click of a button, I was instantly transported into 7 living rooms in eastern America, talking to 7 mums who wanted to know how Bach Flower Remedies could help their children – and they had a list of questions for me.

The Terrible Twos

Most of the mums had toddlers who seemed to be starting their Terrible Twos early as they were beginning to show their strength of will and their independence. They were being stubborn and having tantrums.

Most of the mums had toddlers who seemed to be starting their Terrible Twos early as they were beginning to show their strength of will and their independence. They were being stubborn and having tantrums.

Holly. Tantrums are like child’s play to deal with Bach Flowers. Holly fits the tantrum scenario perfectly.

This remedy is for the anger we feel when we’ve been treated unfairly. And yes, a toddler can feel that. They’re naturally curious and want to explore everything and when they’re stopped; when they can’t do what they want, they get really cross and sometimes violent too. Holly will help heal and soothe the Terrible Twos just as it’ll help and soothe you, when you’re angry about life.

Young Lilly wakes from her afternoon sleep screaming and is very angry. If her mother tries to pick her up or console her, she gets even angrier and hits her mother. Holly will soothe little Lilly and save her mother from a lot of heart ache.

Young children can get jealous easily. Holly heals jealousy. Even when your pets are jealous of the new baby, Holly will sort that out too (2 drops in the dogs drinking water for a few days and you’ll see the difference).

Clinging and anxious

Sarah mentioned that 2-year-old Amy was clinging and was always anxious.

Children are naturally curious so, if they’re reluctant to try something new, this could be caused by a lack of confidence mixed up with their anxiety.

I recommended that Amy be given Mimulus. Mimulus people are gentle and kind and anxious about life. It’s the remedy for known fears – like fear of spiders, fear of dogs, fear of flying etc. Those in need of Mimulus are anxious about most things in life.

Larch is the remedy for self-confidence. A child who is hesitant about attempting new things will benefit from being given Larch.

You can see that Larch and Mimulus go really well together and I suggested that Sarah give little Amy both these remedies. It’s that easy – like child’s play. (I’ve covered how to give the remedies towards the end of the blog).

Night terror panic

Night Terrors are dreadful things. Nancy’s daughter, Alicia, was having night terrors. She was waking in the night, crying and really frightened. It’s very upsetting for the child and the mother.

I recommended that Nancy give Alicia either Rescue Remedy – (or Rock Rose) – and Aspen. (Rescue Remedy contains Rock Rose. Nancy’s more likely to have Rescue than Rock Rose). Rock Rose is the remedy for ‘urgent fear’ that we call panic!

Aspen is for unknown fears. We feel afraid without being able to identify what we’re afraid of.

Stress of motherhood

This deserves to be a blog in its own right, but I’ll add a little here about the stresses of motherhood to help young mums.

Mothers want to do their very best for their children and are inclined to chew over the past and are hyper vigilant about every detail – everything must be ‘just right’. A lot of mothers can have a perfectionist-nature when it comes to how they bring up their children. They are very frightened about not getting it right.

Now a third remedy joins the Larch and Mimulus combination to make a brilliant trio…

Pine is the remedy for feelings of “I’ve done it wrong” and “I could have/should have done so much better. I didn’t do enough”.  It’s the remedy you need when you beat yourself up.

Young mothers always have too much to do in too little time. And for years they don’t get a full night’s sleep!

If you find you’re not getting enought sleep and are exhausted, Olive is the remedy for fatigue and will help you through the day. 

Vervain is the remedy for being over stressed – trying to achieve too much in too little time.

If you become irritable when you are stressed and exhausted, Impatiens is the remedy that will help you – and of course your children too, when they’re grumpy and irritable.

Taking the remedies is like Child’s Play

It’s easy and simple to take the remedies. There are 3 ways to take the remedies – all are effective, and one way is not any better than the others. One is much more expensive than the others – but all methods work well.

1. Put 2 drops of Rescue (and 2 of every other remedy) straight on to the tongue. The remedies are preserved in brandy and the strong taste is a shock to the children. Please be kind to your children – don’t give the remedies straight from the bottle. Put the remedies in water, milk or juice.
2. Put the drops into a small glass of water and sip frequently throughout the day.
3. For long-term treatment, make a Treatment bottle. This is a 30ml bottle with a dropper. Fill the treatment bottle to the shoulder with mineral or filtered water and add your chosen remedies. Then take 4 drops from that bottle at least 4 times a day or put 4 drops into a glass of water and sip frequently throughout the day.

It may seem a lot to take in, but when you actually do it, you’ll find how easy it is. It’s child’s play and then you’ll be able to watch your children play happily and contentedly.

The Bach Flower Remedies have been my constant companion for over 30 years. They have stood by me and helped me deal with some really hard times in life.

If you would like to have this support, the fact that they’ve “got your back” as it were and can help you with absolutely every situation, then click here to find out how you too can manage your own emotions and the feelings of your family.

Over to you

If you know someone whose interested in the Bach Flower Remedies, or who could benefit from these remedies, please forward this blog.

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Thank you.

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Combatting the Winter Blues

We’re nearly at the end of January – which is sometimes referred to as the ‘longest month’ . In the northern hemisphere, we’ve lived with grey cloudes: grey days and what seems like continuous rain.   But we can manage that.  However, even though the weather is ‘grey’,  its the lack of light that affects so many people.

Scientifically termed Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD), this condition manifests through symptoms such as low moods, lack of energy, increased anxiety, and depression.

The Darkness 

The darkness of winter seems to close in and leeches any self-worth you have and sapping your confidence. You have so much good in your life, you should be happy and yet the wretched SAD feelings breed feelings of sadness and guilt and weigh heavily on you.

Although we can cope with these feelings if they pass quickly, but when they build up over the winter months, they seem to go deep. And what happens when our feelings aren’t recognised and healed? They get pushed down, suppressed, depressed deep down and that’s where they fester turn into despair.

To help you navigate through this ‘dark’ time, here are a selection of remedies designed to uplift your spirits and rejuvenate your energy.

Remedies to help you lift the Winter Blues

Larch and Pine are inseparable companions. They go so well together.

Larch is for lack of confidence.

Pine is for feeling you’ve done something wrong or the feeling that you should have done better.

Mustard is one of the most common remedies taken for despair.

These are suggestions that could help you. You really do need to chose and use the remedies that suit you best.

Lack of Energy

Living each day with your body tense against the cold, wind, rain or snow, saps your energy – and no amount of chocolate seems to help! 

SAD brings lethargy and despair and you feel as if you want to  sleep half the day. And talking of sleep you didn’t really feel like getting up this morning, did you? The thought of a Duvet-Day is alluring!

You’re weary of cold grey days. Motivation is a thing of the past and you become resigned to your situation so don’t even try to pull yourself out of it.

Olive is the remedy for prolong fatigue.

Hornbeam is for the Monday Morning feeling.

Wild Rose is for the feelings apathy and resignation.

Also Walnut is a must-have remedy for anyone sensitive to outside influences such as the phases of the moon, hay fever, and lack of light. Walnut help reduce your sensitivity to outside influences. 

Bach Flower Remedies

I’ve mentioned 7 remedies that could help you that can help SAD, but I’m only giving you suggestions.  Ideally you should read up on these remedies and see which ones suit you the best.

You can choose and mix up 6 remedies together. I know some like to mix more. But Bach suggested six and I work on the principle that he knew best!  (I’m very much a “Pure-Bach-Lady”).

Bach Flower Therapy is a natural and simple way you can manage the stress of life and heal all the horrible feelings that accompanies stress Click here if you’d like to know more about the Bach Flower Remedies

Over to you

 

I hope you found the blog helpful. As always, I love hearing from you, so please leave your comments in the comments box below. I look forward to hearing from you.

 

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‘Depression’ seems to cover a number of feelings that are all involved with poor ‘mental health’.

There are two words that comes to my mind in connection with Mental Health and they are ‘Anxiety’ and ‘Depression’ and anyone who lives with either or both of these feelings often suffers from severe loneliness.

So it seems to me, that its a vicious circle, because these feelings feed each other constantly. 

The way I see it is, that ‘depression’ is the result of anxiety and lack of confidence, at a very deep level,  that we’ve lived with for longer than we realise. And there’ll be a few other feelings in there too: self blame for example.  

I have been using Bach Flower Remedies for over 40 years for myself, my family and my clients. These amazing remedies can heal painful feelings and as I’m sure you know, we’re all different and we react to experiences in different ways, so we often need different remedies. It might be that two people with seemingly similar ‘depressions’ might need different remedies for a healing.  

So I’ve put together a few suggestions for Bach Flower Remedies that could perhaps help you out of the mist and on the road to recovery.    

One of the best ways to help you choose remedies for yourself, is to use the Bach Flower Guides. I’m often asked what’s the difference between anxiety and panic. It is the intensity of your feelings that’s different. You can find out this, and more about the remedies from the Guides.

If you feel really intense anxiety that changes how you live, that is Rock Rose.  

If you’re a ‘worrier’ and are anxious about the things of everyday life, that needs Mimulus.

If you find it confusing to select the best remedy to help you, these Bach Flower Guides below will help you.

Here are some remedies that can help you with Depression and Anxiety:

Rescue Remedy – its brilliant in emergency situations and for grief. It ‘sticks you back together’ when you feel you’re ‘falling apart’. So this remedy can do a lot of good to everyone with Depression. Rescue Remedy contains Rock Rose, the remedy for panic and intense anxiety and Star of Bethlehem is for shock, trauma and sadness – even if your feelings are from childhood.

Mustard for a depression that comes on suddenly, out of the blue. It’s as if a dark cloud falls on you and you feel as if you’re living in fog. Your mind isn’t working and you’ve no clarity of thought. The most important indicator for Mustard, is there appears to be no cause for these awful feelings.

Larch is for the lack of self-confidence. Few realise that lacking confidence can put you into an extremely deep state of despair. You don’t try to do anything because you believe you can’t do it – and everyone can do it better than you. So you don’t try.

Pine is for self-reproach, it’s for when thoughts similar to “I should have done better. I could have done more. I wish I hadn’t said this or done that” run through your mind. I’m sure you know what I mean. We all need Pine at some time.  

Mimulus –  If you know what you’re afraid of, Mimulus is for you. Mimulus is afraid of ‘life’  They don’t talk about their anxieties and push them down into their stomach. Mimulus children often get stomach ache when they’re anxious. 

Sweet Chestnut is for anguish. Despair. The dark night of the soul: unendurable desolation and desperation.

These remedies will help you through the dark days of mental and emotional confusion.

If you or someone you know, suffers from despair and depression this blog here will help you to find Bach Flower Remedies to help.

You can mix up to 6 remedies together. I’ve written a blog on the most effective way to take the remedies, so perhaps you might like to have a look at that?

Mental health has been brought very much to the fore since Princes William and Harry admitted having difficulty dealing with their mother’s death. And now the Prince and Princess of Wales are championing the importance of Mental Health for happy and productive lives. Your mental and emotional health are everything.

I believe that feeling good is the most important thing in our lives and if you don’t feel good, then Bach Flower Remedies are a really simple way of healing your feelings. 

Click here to find out how you can study the Bach Flower Remedies so you can manage your own and your family’s emotions.

And over to you…

This is a long blog today because its such an important subject, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. 

As always, I love to hear from you.  Take care.  Rose.

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Back to School or going into ‘Big School’ can be traumatic for both children and parent’s. There was a lot of anxiety in the Cartwright household on the night before the First Day of school.   Mother had heard about the Bach Remedies, but didn’t know which ones would help her and her children through this very anxious time.

Just in case you’re going through the First Day Anxiety, I thought I’d give you some suggestions that might help your children – and of course, you too.

First day of school

Through the corner of his eye, even in his dimly light bedroom, Noah could see his new school shirt on the hanger on cupboard door. Although he tried not to look at it, he could see the neat pile of his shorts, undies and socks all ready for tomorrow.

It was not ‘back to school’ for Noah, it was his very first day at school – and he couldn’t sleep! He was tossing and turning. and his stomach was churning. He said it felt as if he had “butterflies and grasshoppers in his tummy”. He told his mum, he felt as if he was on the merry-go-round at the playground, as his thoughts kept going around and around.

Somtimes Noah was excited to go to school for the first time. Several of his friends from Preschool Nursery were going to the same school and that gave him some comfort. He’d been to the school many times with his Mum, to collect his eldest sister, but somehow, starting school himself was a very big step. He was not sure he was ready to be a ‘big boy’ just yet. Noah couldn’t sleep!

Back to school

Annabelle peeped through the crack in the door in her brother’s bedroom. He was tossing and turning, just as she had done all those years ago – and as she would probably do tonight as well.

Although Annabelle was going back to school, she too, had first-day-nerves. as she was now going into High School.

She walked softly to her own room to get her clothes ready for the morning. First day in High School! It’s really a big deal going from being a “big fish in a small pond to a small fish in a big pond” and she was anxious.

As she took her new (and freshly pressed) uniform out of the cupboard, she felt her stomach lurch and start to churn.  She too had some friends going to the same school, so she knew she wouldn’t be on her own. But…high school is a big deal!

As she prepared for bed, Annabelle thought: “HIGH SCHOOL”! I’m not grown up enough for High School! How am I going to cope? What happens if I get it wrong?”

..And she couldn’t stop these thoughts! No matter what she did, the thoughts came back, again and again.

And Mother and Father too

Mother was down stairs. She’d settled Noah the best she could and now Annabelle was getting ready for her big day.  Mother busied herself in the kitchen, tidying up things that were already tidy! She too was anxious about her ‘chickens’.   She’s been dreading ‘Back to School’ day for weeks.

Of course she was anxious for her children – but she also was worried about herself. It was a big step for her too, as she’d no longer have her ‘chickens’ at home to care and fuss over.  What was she going to do with her day?  There really is only so much satisfaction one can get from housework! 

She’d been thinking of joining some sort of group or club. She’d been ‘mother’ for so many years, that she didn’t have the confidence to go into the world again!

Just like Noah and Annabelle, mother’s thoughts were on the merry-go-round – going too fast and going nowhere.

The Back to School Bach Flower Mix

Although Mother, Annabelle and Noah are facing different challenges, they are really all have the same problem – they’re anxious about the changes and worried about not have the confidence to take the next step.  This mix of Remedies will help everyone who is facing similar situations.

Rescue Remedy – it does just that, it ‘Rescues’. It helps with panicky feelings and ‘sticks you back together again’.

Mimulus – is for ‘known’ anxieties. If you know what you’re worried about (back to school, a new life etc.)– then Mimulus will help you.

Larch – the brilliant self-confidence remedy.

Pine – for feelings of ‘getting it wrong’.

White Chestnut – to stop the merry-go-round of repeated thoughts.

Walnut  – both children and their mother are facing ‘life changes’ -going from one ‘life’ to another’. Walnut is the remedy that helps us deal with our change of circumstances.

This mix of remedies is not just for the first day of school, they will help you through any new situation!

Click here to find out how to make the mix and how to take the remedies.

The Bach Flower Remedies (you might call them Essences) are not just ‘sometimes’ remedies, they can support you all your life, as they have done for me.  Not only have they seen my family and I through new schools, they’ve seen us through changing continents 4 times! 

They’ve seen me through leaving my homeland, settling in foreign countries and then through the emotional financial trauma of divorce (at 62) and finally to settling in England and starting a business. 

Once you know about the remedies, they can help you through every situation, bringing balance, harmony and a sense of well-being.

Then you too, like me, will come to know which remedies your family need to help them through difficult situations.

And over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. I read and personally reply to all your comments. 

I look forward to hearing from you.

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You might not realise it, (unless you’ve experienced it) that a lack of confidence has far reaching effects. It can bring deep despair and a “depression” that affects every area of life. These days the word ‘depression’ is handed out to almost everyone who has difficulty dealing with some parts of life.

Like a rotten apple in the barrel, it only takes one apple to infect the whole barrel…and a lack of courage and confidence is the same – it infects every area of life.

Here’s Jessica’s story

Jesscia had been self-conscious since early childhood. She can still remember how embarrassed she got when people talked to her and how she always felt she couldn’t do as well as the other children her age.

She didn’t mix well with others, so was inclined to kept to herself.

But there’s more and I wonder if you can relate to any of these:

• You automatically feel inferior to others.
• You admire people who are successful, but don’t believe you’re capable of being successful yourself.
• You expect failure.
• Have used illness as an excuse so you don’t have to tackle something.
• Feel useless and have no feelings of self-worth or self-esteem.

If so, your problem is simple – just like Jessica and you’re filled with self-doubt, you lack self- confidence.

It’s so quick and simple to say, and yet the lack of confidence, and having no courage, has a profound effect and influences every part of your life – it is the ‘rotten apple’ that affects the whole barrel.

Back to Jessica

As you can imagine, Jessica never made much of her career – even though she was quite capable. She did her work – but never any more. She’d never take risks or applied for promotion.

Jessica sat at the back of the office and plodded along. She was not prepared to step ‘outside the  box’ because she was absolutely convinced she would fail. She knew what she could do and she stuck to it.

Do you doubt yourself and lack confidence? 

It’s a blunt question I know, particularly as we might not know each other well. If you do then, relax, I know how you feel – because I’ve been there – more often than I’d care to admit!  And I have a solution for you, so read on. I’ve suffered with self-doubt and have felt the knock-on effects all my life.

How well I remember trying to work out which remedy I needed when I first started to use the Bach Remedies. Not only did I find it difficult to identify how I felt but I couldn’t work out which remedy I needed. I didn’t realise then that we could have more than one feeling at once!

But we do, all the time. No wonder you find it difficult to identify how you feel.

A Nervous Breakdown

Jessica had never been good at handling the stress of life and some years ago had a nervous breakdown.

How does a  ‘nervous breakdown’ show itself? For Jessica, it showed at first as an extremely severe bout of debilitating ‘flu, which hung about for months. She was emotionally and physically exhausted. She didn’t have the power: the confidence to face the world.

She was severely shaken by her bout of flu and she lost what little confidence she had and so had not been able to return to work.

During this time Jessica felt very alone. She’d often felt lonely but didn’t have the courage or confidence to meet new people and try new things. She blamed herself for not doing what she felt she should have done to live a fulfilling life. She said she felt she was constantly living with an undercurrent of shame and guilt that she hadn’t done more with her life.

Not Sleeping Well

Jessica wasn’t sleeping well either.  She would wake around 3 am with the same anxieties: the same worrying thoughts night after night.  She said it was rather like all her thoughts jumped onto a child’s merry-go-round and played there for hours. She couldn’t find a solution to any of her problems and night after night she would be awake while her troubles played on the merry-go-round.

Jessica was tired – exhausted in fact. She wanted to feel better and hoped to regain enough confidence to be able to go back to work.

So I mixed the following remedies together, especially for Jessica’s feelings.

The Courage and Confidence Mix

Larch – for self-confidence

Mimulus– gives courage to face the anxieties of life

Pine – to help heal the shame and guilt she felt for not trying to live a happier and more fulfilling life.

White Chestnut – to stop the unresolved thoughts from going around and around.

Olive – to help with fatigue and exhaustion

Gentian – as she was very discouraged from the set-back of his illness.

I’m sure you can relate to some of these feelings (if not all of them) and you can see how these remedies all work together beautifully to strengthen and give courage and confidence.

If you’re not sure to take the Remedies, click here for the most effective way to take Bach Flower Remedies.

If you’re lack of confidence has gone so deep that its turned into depression, perhaps this article will help you.

Over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your comments in the Comment Box below the blog – and of course ask your questions too. 

I look forward to hearing from you. Rose

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Different things stress each of us and we react in different ways.  But I think you and I probably have similar stresses: anxiety, irritable, perhaps even a little intolerant?  Lack of confidence, feel you’ve not done enough and are unable to sleep?

So I’ve decided to make up a mix of remedies which I use at Christmas time and which we’ve called

Bach Flower Christmas Survival Kit. 

This is the mix I make up to help me when I have a too much to do and too little time to do it!

The Christmas Survival Kit is only available in UK (due to Custom difficulties)

Click here if you’d like to know more about my ‘Christmas Survival Kit’

Just in case you’re not in the UK, I thought I’d let you know what’s in my Christmas Survival Mix, just in case you have some of the remedies yourself. There are 6 remedies mixed togethger. (6 is the maximum you can mix together).

1. Rescue Remedy – it contains a)Impatiens for when you’re cross and irritable because people and life aren’t going fast enough for you.
   b) Rock Rose is for when your anxiety is so intense it seems as if it’s running your life.
   c) Star of Bethlehem for shock, trauma and grief. It’s also the remedy that will ‘stick you back together’ when you feel as if you’re ‘falling apart’.
2. Beech is similar to Impatiens. Beech is for when you’re critical and irritated by what others do, and the way they do it.
3. Larch is to give you the confidence to do all that need to be done.
4. Pine is for when yiou feel you should have/could have done more- and done it bettrer.
5. White Chestnut is for when you’re unable to sleep because your thoughts of your endless To Do lists are rushing around on a merry-go-round and you can’t stop them.

This mix of remedies has helped me through many a Christmas. I particularly remember a Christmas when the children were small and money was very, very short. I had a job in a kitchen washing dishes (no dishwashers in those days) and scrubbing the kitchen floor and I earned £114. That £114 paid for our entire Christmas that year and goodness we had fun. But I wouldn’t have managed without the help of my beloved Bach Flowers.

Click here if you’d like to know more about my ‘Christmas Survival Kit’

Over to you.
As always, I love to hear from you. So please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below the blog. I always answer every Comment myself. I really do enjoy hearing from you. (After all, you’re why I’m here! :))

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Both emotions give birth to a whole host of other feelings from despair, being discouraged and disappointment.  Leading to loneliness and lack of self-worth. And of course, it conjures up feelings of “how am I going to manage without him/her?”  

Bach Flower Remedies can help you heal your grief, and sooth other feelings too.  But sometimes its difficult to chose which of the 38 remedies suit you best.  These FREE Bach Flower Guides can help you.  

his blog is about grief : the pain of a broken heart.   But if anger is raging within you then this blog will help you too.

At sometime in our lives we all suffer from the loss of someone or a pet we love dearly.  I’m afraid its part of being human and no one escapes this feeling.  It happens to us all – more than once I’m afraid.

Please don’t misunderstand me, I’m  not belittling bereavement or sorrow. I’ve been there and got the T shirt.  In fact, I’ve got lots of these T shirts – just like you – relationships that broke my heart and of course, the loss of my beloved parents.  And how I wish I’d know about the Remedies in those days.

Grief at the loss of a loved one

A bereavement is always a shock, even when you expect it, it’s still a shock. And then comes the pain.
You feel as if there’s a stone in your stomach and your heart is literary broken – both that the same time.  The feelings of being completely lost and alone are mixed together so you’re unable to distinguish one feeling from another. And the only thought you can muster is “how do I get through today”? 

Without healing, that thought (and similar ones) run through your mind continuously, usually for months.

Where do you go now? What do you do now?  How can you pull your life together?

And what if you were unable to get to the bedside quick enough to say the words you know you should have said long ago.   What then?  Self-blame!  Guilt!  Such awful turmoil – all mixed up with sadness.

Broken Relationshiops

But these feelings are not exclusive to the death of a loved one, many have a broken heart from a broken relationship – a long marriage where one partner thinks all is well and is shocked and broken-hearted when the other wants to leave. 

t’s not the length of the relationship that signifies the depth or the pain.  We can fall into the deepest of loves in a matter of minutes (we all know that love-at-first-sight is true!)  The breaking of a relationship brings the same pain and we ask ourselves the same question?  “How am I going to get through today”?

And, in my house, (before I knew about Bach Flower Remedies) we got through the day by making endless tea!

Bach Remedies can heal a broken heart

Here are three remedies that will help heal your grief – even if its from 20 years ago: even if you’ve pushed grief down, it will have become loneliness and depression – these Bach Flower Remedies will see you on the road to recovery.

Sue came to one of my afternoon workshops on the Bach Flower Remedies.  This is Sue’s tale.  Her husband had died ten months earlier and she was not adjusting well at all.  Her family were hugely supportive and very worried.  As well as grieving the lost of the love of her life and her constant companion since mid teens, she was lonely and depressed too.

Star of Bethlehem is the first remedy you need

It doesn’t matter how old your grief is, this remedy will help.  It’s also the remedy for shock and trauma as well.

Star of Bethlehem is one of the remedies in Rescue Remedy.   So if you don’t have Star of Bethlehem, take Rescue Remedy,

Gentian

Gentian is needed when you are ‘knocked back’ by an experience. It seems to over simplify and belittle the depth of emotions you may feel, if I say ‘you’ve suffered a set-back’.

You think everything is going well, and then you find out about an affair or your loved one wants to move on. You’re shaken to your core as well as being broken hearted This is a huge set-back for you.

You are bitterly disappointed and become depressed (Gentian is an excellent remedy for depression – if you can remember your ‘set-back’). You’re so discouraged by your experiences that you’re sceptical about life ever getting better. You’d like to get better, but you don’t believe you can.

It’s worthwhile having Gentian in your Bach-kit because it isn’t only for the big disappointments. If your child didn’t do as well as they hoped at school, or wasn’t chosen for the sports team or didn’t receive the phone call or text from the new boyfriend/girlfriend – the Gentian will take away the feelings of disappointment before they festers and go deeper.

Pine will help you, when you feel ashamed

If only I’d….

If you don’t get to the bedside in time; if you’ve been working so hard for too long that your partner moves out: if you didn’t do enough for your parents – you always meant to visit once a month, but never got around to it, then you’re going to feel guilty about it.  You meant to go and help your mum with the housekeeping and dad with garden – but you never got around to it – and now its too late and Guilt takes over. You can push guilt down until it turns into depression

If only .. ” runs through your mind constantly.  And you feel awful. You’re ashamed of yourself.  The list of ‘should haves’ and ‘could haves’ run endlessly through your mind as you’re filled with guilt!  And no matter what you try to do: talking yourself out of, going partying, watching junk on the TV – nothing helps. The Bach Flower Remedy Pine will help you.

These are just three of the 38 Bach Remedies.  Although these three will help you, you could benefit from some of the other remedies too.

Once again, if you’d like to find out more about the Bach Flower Remedies click here now to find which remedy would be best for you.

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Thank you.

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