‘Depression’ seems to cover a number of feelings that are all involved with poor ‘mental health’.

There are two words that comes to my mind in connection with Mental Health and they are ‘Anxiety’ and ‘Depression’ and anyone who lives with either or both of these feelings often suffers from severe loneliness.

So it seems to me, that its a vicious circle, because these feelings feed each other constantly. 

The way I see it is, that ‘depression’ is the result of anxiety and lack of confidence, at a very deep level,  that we’ve lived with for longer than we realise. And there’ll be a few other feelings in there too: self blame for example.  

I have been using Bach Flower Remedies for over 40 years for myself, my family and my clients. These amazing remedies can heal painful feelings and as I’m sure you know, we’re all different and we react to experiences in different ways, so we often need different remedies. It might be that two people with seemingly similar ‘depressions’ might need different remedies for a healing.  

So I’ve put together a few suggestions for Bach Flower Remedies that could perhaps help you out of the mist and on the road to recovery.    

One of the best ways to help you choose remedies for yourself, is to use the Bach Flower Guides. I’m often asked what’s the difference between anxiety and panic. It is the intensity of your feelings that’s different. You can find out this, and more about the remedies from the Guides.

If you feel really intense anxiety that changes how you live, that is Rock Rose.  

If you’re a ‘worrier’ and are anxious about the things of everyday life, that needs Mimulus.

If you find it confusing to select the best remedy to help you, these Bach Flower Guides below will help you.

Here are some remedies that can help you with Depression and Anxiety:

Rescue Remedy – its brilliant in emergency situations and for grief. It ‘sticks you back together’ when you feel you’re ‘falling apart’. So this remedy can do a lot of good to everyone with Depression. Rescue Remedy contains Rock Rose, the remedy for panic and intense anxiety and Star of Bethlehem is for shock, trauma and sadness – even if your feelings are from childhood.

Mustard for a depression that comes on suddenly, out of the blue. It’s as if a dark cloud falls on you and you feel as if you’re living in fog. Your mind isn’t working and you’ve no clarity of thought. The most important indicator for Mustard, is there appears to be no cause for these awful feelings.

Larch is for the lack of self-confidence. Few realise that lacking confidence can put you into an extremely deep state of despair. You don’t try to do anything because you believe you can’t do it – and everyone can do it better than you. So you don’t try.

Pine is for self-reproach, it’s for when thoughts similar to “I should have done better. I could have done more. I wish I hadn’t said this or done that” run through your mind. I’m sure you know what I mean. We all need Pine at some time.  

Mimulus –  If you know what you’re afraid of, Mimulus is for you. Mimulus is afraid of ‘life’  They don’t talk about their anxieties and push them down into their stomach. Mimulus children often get stomach ache when they’re anxious. 

Sweet Chestnut is for anguish. Despair. The dark night of the soul: unendurable desolation and desperation.

These remedies will help you through the dark days of mental and emotional confusion.

If you or someone you know, suffers from despair and depression this blog here will help you to find Bach Flower Remedies to help.

You can mix up to 6 remedies together. I’ve written a blog on the most effective way to take the remedies, so perhaps you might like to have a look at that?

Mental health has been brought very much to the fore since Princes William and Harry admitted having difficulty dealing with their mother’s death. And now the Prince and Princess of Wales are championing the importance of Mental Health for happy and productive lives. Your mental and emotional health are everything.

I believe that feeling good is the most important thing in our lives and if you don’t feel good, then Bach Flower Remedies are a really simple way of healing your feelings. 

Click here to find out how you can study the Bach Flower Remedies so you can manage your own and your family’s emotions.

And over to you…

This is a long blog today because its such an important subject, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. 

As always, I love to hear from you.  Take care.  Rose.

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Back to School or going into ‘Big School’ can be traumatic for both children and parent’s. There was a lot of anxiety in the Cartwright household on the night before the First Day of school.   Mother had heard about the Bach Remedies, but didn’t know which ones would help her and her children through this very anxious time.

Just in case you’re going through the First Day Anxiety, I thought I’d give you some suggestions that might help your children – and of course, you too.

First day of school

Through the corner of his eye, even in his dimly light bedroom, Noah could see his new school shirt on the hanger on cupboard door. Although he tried not to look at it, he could see the neat pile of his shorts, undies and socks all ready for tomorrow.

It was not ‘back to school’ for Noah, it was his very first day at school – and he couldn’t sleep! He was tossing and turning. and his stomach was churning. He said it felt as if he had “butterflies and grasshoppers in his tummy”. He told his mum, he felt as if he was on the merry-go-round at the playground, as his thoughts kept going around and around.

Somtimes Noah was excited to go to school for the first time. Several of his friends from Preschool Nursery were going to the same school and that gave him some comfort. He’d been to the school many times with his Mum, to collect his eldest sister, but somehow, starting school himself was a very big step. He was not sure he was ready to be a ‘big boy’ just yet. Noah couldn’t sleep!

Back to school

Annabelle peeped through the crack in the door in her brother’s bedroom. He was tossing and turning, just as she had done all those years ago – and as she would probably do tonight as well.

Although Annabelle was going back to school, she too, had first-day-nerves. as she was now going into High School.

She walked softly to her own room to get her clothes ready for the morning. First day in High School! It’s really a big deal going from being a “big fish in a small pond to a small fish in a big pond” and she was anxious.

As she took her new (and freshly pressed) uniform out of the cupboard, she felt her stomach lurch and start to churn.  She too had some friends going to the same school, so she knew she wouldn’t be on her own. But…high school is a big deal!

As she prepared for bed, Annabelle thought: “HIGH SCHOOL”! I’m not grown up enough for High School! How am I going to cope? What happens if I get it wrong?”

..And she couldn’t stop these thoughts! No matter what she did, the thoughts came back, again and again.

And Mother and Father too

Mother was down stairs. She’d settled Noah the best she could and now Annabelle was getting ready for her big day.  Mother busied herself in the kitchen, tidying up things that were already tidy! She too was anxious about her ‘chickens’.   She’s been dreading ‘Back to School’ day for weeks.

Of course she was anxious for her children – but she also was worried about herself. It was a big step for her too, as she’d no longer have her ‘chickens’ at home to care and fuss over.  What was she going to do with her day?  There really is only so much satisfaction one can get from housework! 

She’d been thinking of joining some sort of group or club. She’d been ‘mother’ for so many years, that she didn’t have the confidence to go into the world again!

Just like Noah and Annabelle, mother’s thoughts were on the merry-go-round – going too fast and going nowhere.

The Back to School Bach Flower Mix

Although Mother, Annabelle and Noah are facing different challenges, they are really all have the same problem – they’re anxious about the changes and worried about not have the confidence to take the next step.  This mix of Remedies will help everyone who is facing similar situations.

Rescue Remedy – it does just that, it ‘Rescues’. It helps with panicky feelings and ‘sticks you back together again’.

Mimulus – is for ‘known’ anxieties. If you know what you’re worried about (back to school, a new life etc.)– then Mimulus will help you.

Larch – the brilliant self-confidence remedy.

Pine – for feelings of ‘getting it wrong’.

White Chestnut – to stop the merry-go-round of repeated thoughts.

Walnut  – both children and their mother are facing ‘life changes’ -going from one ‘life’ to another’. Walnut is the remedy that helps us deal with our change of circumstances.

This mix of remedies is not just for the first day of school, they will help you through any new situation!

Click here to find out how to make the mix and how to take the remedies.

The Bach Flower Remedies (you might call them Essences) are not just ‘sometimes’ remedies, they can support you all your life, as they have done for me.  Not only have they seen my family and I through new schools, they’ve seen us through changing continents 4 times! 

They’ve seen me through leaving my homeland, settling in foreign countries and then through the emotional financial trauma of divorce (at 62) and finally to settling in England and starting a business. 

Once you know about the remedies, they can help you through every situation, bringing balance, harmony and a sense of well-being.

Then you too, like me, will come to know which remedies your family need to help them through difficult situations.

And over to you…

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment Box below. I read and personally reply to all your comments. 

I look forward to hearing from you.

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Bach Flower Remedies help me deal with the intense heat!

Too hot to handle

So, how are you managing with the heat?

To find the right remedies to help you, first you have to identify how the heat makes you feel.

This is how I feel when the heat is too hot for me to handle. Perhaps you feel like this too?

• Feel ‘spaced out’ and can’t concentrate.
• Grumpy and irritable – my nerves seem frayed at the edges.
• Absolutly absolutely exhausted – I must lie down! 

Rescue Remedy

This amazing remedy is a combination of 5 remedies, 2 of them: Clematis and Impatiens will help you cope with the heat.

Clematis

The beautiful white flowers of Clematis helps with the ‘spaced out’ feeling that comes when we’re overheated and feeling faint. You know that floppy feeling when you can’t get your mind to focus. It’s not that you’re lying on the sofa, ideally day dreaming. No…Your mind won’t work!

Clematis will help to ground you – This is in Rescue Remedy

Impatiens

The heat seems to make us snappy and  irritable. We get and impatient with everyone about everything – This is in Rescue Remedy

Beech

The tall and majestic Beech is brilliant. It’s for when the heat is intolerable and you to become intolerant and critical of others.  (I know this is unusual for you, but the heat certainly does seems to affect our tolerance levels).

Olive

The gnarled and tired Olive tree gives us the remedy for physical fatigue. Take it when you’re feeling drained and exhausted. Olive will restore some of your energy.

Walnut is known as the ‘link breaker’ – so it;s good for when we move from one situation to another.
But, Bach put Walnut into the Group of Remedies who are ‘extremely acceptible to outside influences’…

So, right now, I’m extremely susceptible to the ‘outside influence’ of the heat – so I add it to my ‘Heat Mix’.

Please Remember

When you take the appropriate remedy for your feelings, the Bach Flower Remedies do work. But remember they work subtly and gently, and you might not realise you’re feeling better, until you notice that you’re doing more, or not needing to lie down for so long.

Dosage

(The Bach Flower Remedies brand of my choice is Healing Herbs and their ‘Rescue Remedy’ is called 5 Flower  – it’s made of a combination of 5 flowers).

Into a glass of water, put 2 drops of each of the remedies: Rescue/5 Flower, Beech, Olive and Walnut, and sip through out the day.  If you’re travelling, put your chosen remedies into a 500ml bottle of mineral water, but because there is more water in the bottle than a glass, this time put 3-4 drops of each of the remedies into the bottle and sip frequently.

This is your remedy-water, not your thirst water. Remember to drink more water in this hot weather, that you would do usual.

This mix helps me get through the heat of the day, so I hope it’ll help you too. 

Click here if you’d like to know more about the Bach Flower Remedies.

Over to you

As always, I love hearing from you. So please leave your thoughts and comments in the comment box below

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This is not like my usual blogs but I believe it’s important.  I recently watched a programme about a young boy who was on the Autistic Spectrum.  It was very interesting, but so very sad – for the child and the parents. 

Please don’t click away now. 

I know this subject is not relevant to everyone. If it’s not for you, perhaps you know someone who it could help.  If publishing it can help just one child and one family then I’ll be content. There are so many children being born on the Spectrum and they don’t know how to live in our world.  They are frightened by our world: they live with intense anxiety (perhaps you couold call it panic) they feel isolated and lonely.

 

Help for those on the Autistic Spectrum 

 

Peter had been coming to see me for some time.  He was in a very difficult marriage with a young son. The Bach Flower Remedies “made life liveable” for Peter. 

However, Peter’s young son Tom, did not develop as he should and was soon diagnosed as being on the Autistic Spectrum.

Rescue Remedy now became the ‘glue’ that kept the family afloat.  It helped both parents and it helped young Tom a lot.  This is why.

 

Rescue Remedy

 

Rescue Remedy could have been specially ‘made’ Tom and others like him.  It contains 5 remedies mixed together that, when combined, they ‘Rescue’.  Just look at the healing that takes place with Rescue Remedy.  

 

Star of Bethlehem. The remedy made from this small white flower heals shock, trauma and sadness. The child in the TV programme was lonely – no one would play with him – and he was sad.  Let alone the trauma he had to face in daily life. And he said he was sad because he was different.

 

Rock Rose heals the fear that rises into panic, the intense anxity that overwhelms them, when the children have to go into a situation that’s unknown to them, or they’re being asked to remember something they’ve forgotten.  It helps when they’re in a situation they don’t know how to deal with.

Cherry Plum is brilliant for the obsessive thoughts: irrational thoughts that they can’t stop.  This remedy helps O.C.D: is soothing and healing.

Impatiens for the frustration they feel when they can’t do what they want to do: can’t find the words to say what they mean.  Impatiens soothes the frustration and irritability they feel.

Clematis is the grounding remedy.  It helps bring the daydreamers to earth.  Those on the Autistic Spectrum live in a different realm to us, Clematis can help ground them.

 

Other remedies that help

 

There are three other remedies that Peter found really helped Tom.

Heather.  After Rescue Remedy, Heather is the best remedy to help bring your children (or anyone one on the Spectrum) out of their shell and helps them deal better with life around them.  This remedy is essential to help everyone on the Spectrum.

 

Holly. The remedy made from the tiny white flowers of Holly is for anger and violent rage.  (No wonder – look at the prickly leaves!)  Tom would go beyond frustration and go into anger that he couldn’t control.  Peter soon learnt the signs that Tom was going into a Holly state, and would give him the remedy before he got out of control.   Holly heals and melts the anger, making life easier for Tom and for his family too.

 

Chestnut Bud is the remedy to help when we don’t learn something from experience.  It helps with the ability to absorb knowledge.   

This is the link to the blog on Chestnut Bud if you’d like to find out more.

 

Please Remember

 

Rescue Remedy and the other remedies will not ‘fix’ being on the Autistic Spectrum – but they certainly do help, bringing relief to both the child and the parents – as Nicki discovered.

 

Meet Noah

 

Nicki’s 9 year old son, Noah,  is on the Autistic Spectrum.  For some time, Nicki has been giving him 2 Sprays of Rescue Remedy his mouth, just before he goes into school every morning (and also when he was facing something he wasn’t comfortably with).

However, being a busy mum she would sometimes forget ‘ Spray’.  One day, when  she forgot the Spray, when she collected her son from school, she was met by the teacher with “You forgot today didn’t you?”

 

Even the teaching staff recognised the difference  Rescue Remedy made to Noah.

The Bach Flower Remedies are natural, simple to use and safe for everyone.  They makes life easier for the child, for the family and for the teachers too.  And, after all, isn’t that all everyone wants – to make life easier.

 

Dosage

 

If you have a spray – 2 sprays when needed will help the world go around.
(This is the most common brand of Bach Flower Remedies sold in UK.  But there are other brands available that are equally effective.)

If you use the liquid remedy, put 4 drops into approximate ½ pint (300mm) of water or drink, so they can drinking it throughout the day.

It will make a difference. 

Even if this blog doesn’t apply to you, perhaps you know someone who has a child on the Spectrum.  If so, please forwarded this to anyone you know that might find it helpful.  Thank you.

 

Over to you.

 

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts, comments, and of course questions.  I’m delighted to hear from you and I answer every comment myself.  

Take care, thank you for your help in sharing this blog. 

Warm wishes Rose

 

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Both emotions give birth to a whole host of other feelings from despair, being discouraged and disappointment.  Leading to loneliness and lack of self-worth. And of course, it conjures up feelings of “how am I going to manage without him/her?”  

Bach Flower Remedies can help you heal your grief, and sooth other feelings too.  But sometimes its difficult to chose which of the 38 remedies suit you best.  These FREE Bach Flower Guides can help you.  

his blog is about grief : the pain of a broken heart.   But if anger is raging within you then this blog will help you too.

At sometime in our lives we all suffer from the loss of someone or a pet we love dearly.  I’m afraid its part of being human and no one escapes this feeling.  It happens to us all – more than once I’m afraid.

Please don’t misunderstand me, I’m  not belittling bereavement or sorrow. I’ve been there and got the T shirt.  In fact, I’ve got lots of these T shirts – just like you – relationships that broke my heart and of course, the loss of my beloved parents.  And how I wish I’d know about the Remedies in those days.

Grief at the loss of a loved one

A bereavement is always a shock, even when you expect it, it’s still a shock. And then comes the pain.
You feel as if there’s a stone in your stomach and your heart is literary broken – both that the same time.  The feelings of being completely lost and alone are mixed together so you’re unable to distinguish one feeling from another. And the only thought you can muster is “how do I get through today”? 

Without healing, that thought (and similar ones) run through your mind continuously, usually for months.

Where do you go now? What do you do now?  How can you pull your life together?

And what if you were unable to get to the bedside quick enough to say the words you know you should have said long ago.   What then?  Self-blame!  Guilt!  Such awful turmoil – all mixed up with sadness.

Broken Relationshiops

But these feelings are not exclusive to the death of a loved one, many have a broken heart from a broken relationship – a long marriage where one partner thinks all is well and is shocked and broken-hearted when the other wants to leave. 

t’s not the length of the relationship that signifies the depth or the pain.  We can fall into the deepest of loves in a matter of minutes (we all know that love-at-first-sight is true!)  The breaking of a relationship brings the same pain and we ask ourselves the same question?  “How am I going to get through today”?

And, in my house, (before I knew about Bach Flower Remedies) we got through the day by making endless tea!

Bach Remedies can heal a broken heart

Here are three remedies that will help heal your grief – even if its from 20 years ago: even if you’ve pushed grief down, it will have become loneliness and depression – these Bach Flower Remedies will see you on the road to recovery.

Sue came to one of my afternoon workshops on the Bach Flower Remedies.  This is Sue’s tale.  Her husband had died ten months earlier and she was not adjusting well at all.  Her family were hugely supportive and very worried.  As well as grieving the lost of the love of her life and her constant companion since mid teens, she was lonely and depressed too.

Star of Bethlehem is the first remedy you need

It doesn’t matter how old your grief is, this remedy will help.  It’s also the remedy for shock and trauma as well.

Star of Bethlehem is one of the remedies in Rescue Remedy.   So if you don’t have Star of Bethlehem, take Rescue Remedy,

Gentian

Gentian is needed when you are ‘knocked back’ by an experience. It seems to over simplify and belittle the depth of emotions you may feel, if I say ‘you’ve suffered a set-back’.

You think everything is going well, and then you find out about an affair or your loved one wants to move on. You’re shaken to your core as well as being broken hearted This is a huge set-back for you.

You are bitterly disappointed and become depressed (Gentian is an excellent remedy for depression – if you can remember your ‘set-back’). You’re so discouraged by your experiences that you’re sceptical about life ever getting better. You’d like to get better, but you don’t believe you can.

It’s worthwhile having Gentian in your Bach-kit because it isn’t only for the big disappointments. If your child didn’t do as well as they hoped at school, or wasn’t chosen for the sports team or didn’t receive the phone call or text from the new boyfriend/girlfriend – the Gentian will take away the feelings of disappointment before they festers and go deeper.

Pine will help you, when you feel ashamed

If only I’d….

If you don’t get to the bedside in time; if you’ve been working so hard for too long that your partner moves out: if you didn’t do enough for your parents – you always meant to visit once a month, but never got around to it, then you’re going to feel guilty about it.  You meant to go and help your mum with the housekeeping and dad with garden – but you never got around to it – and now its too late and Guilt takes over. You can push guilt down until it turns into depression

If only .. ” runs through your mind constantly.  And you feel awful. You’re ashamed of yourself.  The list of ‘should haves’ and ‘could haves’ run endlessly through your mind as you’re filled with guilt!  And no matter what you try to do: talking yourself out of, going partying, watching junk on the TV – nothing helps. The Bach Flower Remedy Pine will help you.

These are just three of the 38 Bach Remedies.  Although these three will help you, you could benefit from some of the other remedies too.

Once again, if you’d like to find out more about the Bach Flower Remedies click here now to find which remedy would be best for you.

Over to you

As always, I love to hear from you, so please leave your thoughts and comments in the Comment box below.

Thank you.

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